So NOW you wanna be a BM?!
Posted 11 May 2010 - 09:48 AM
So this weekend we met up and she cried and confessed to not being part of the wedding party and her not feeling as involved as she would like to be and as a BFF she should be there to support, put her feelings aside and be there for my day. She claims she should have never let her feelings for MOH interfere with her support for me. NOW she wants to be a BM. I told her ok, but I'm not sure how to feel about it now, 4 months before the wedding....She's got a lot of catching up to do. AND I'm not sure I can trust her intentions, especially because she hates my MOH so much. I can't ensure that there won't be drama, although she promises there won't.
Should I let her be part of the bridal party?
Posted 11 May 2010 - 10:24 AM
Is it purely the possibility of drama putting you off the idea? If so would it be worth getting them both together before you make your mind up and see how things go... kind of test the water!
I suppose on your actual wedding day they will only have to spend a bit of the day together - walking down the aisle, which hopefully they wouldn't have anytime for drama and a few photo's which they can't talk while taking! Hopefully they will be adults and respect that it's your day.
Hope it all works out!
Posted 11 May 2010 - 10:44 AM
Ultimately, it is up to you -- don't feel pressured into anything!
Posted 11 May 2010 - 11:00 AM
Posted 11 May 2010 - 02:08 PM
Maybe instead of making her a bm you could give her a special duty the day of the wedding, like make sure the wc has everything arranged and done correctly so you don't have to worry about it, & it doesn't take time away from your bm that should be spending time w/ you for photos and making sure you look as pretty as possible. My stepmom did that for me and it took loads of stress of my back. We called her the wedding czar, it was very fitting :-)
Posted 11 May 2010 - 03:23 PM
IT sounds like your friend really cares and wants to make a step in the right direction now. I agree that it can't hur to sit them down together and talk to them about it. Or both of them seperately and then together that way you don't catch your MOH offguard.
Wedding Date 11/12/2010- Riviera Maya - Hacienda Tres Rios
Posted 12 May 2010 - 02:39 AM
That's just my two cents but whatever you decide, I hope the best for you!
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