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#2231 Ellabaja1983

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    Posted 17 January 2011 - 04:46 PM

    Originally Posted by bryanandchar 

    So, last night I got some really bad news, and I don't mean to be a downer, but I just need to let it out, and you girls are all so supportive. Anyways, so we've had our trip booked since last March, and several people paid their deposits right away and wanted to come. One of those people included my half-sister, who I'm not terribly close with, but we were so excited she was coming and she was so excited to come. Anyways, last September she found out she has breast cancer and she's only 40. She's had 2 major surgeries last fall to remove the tumours, originally the doctors were very optimistic and thought that's all she would need, so we were all trying to keep positive and remain hopeful that she could still come to the wedding. But now, she just found out she has to start chemo in a couple of weeks and won't be able to travel for at least 6 months. She's really upset that she's missing the trip and I feel horrible about what she's going through. I honestly feel stuck now. I don't know what to do. I feel bad moving forward with wedding stuff, for example, I have been sending out e-mails to everyone coming to Jamaica having a countdown to get everyone excited and now I feel like that's almost inappropriate because she was always the first to write back and tell me how excited she was. How do I continue to move forward without making things harder for her? This is such a crappy situation. I wish I could postpone the wedding and have it when she's got the OK to come, but it's too late for that now....bah, anyways, thanks for listening.

    That's a really tough thing...  I'm sorry to hear about your half-sisters situation.  It is certainly one of the hardest things to deal with (my mother had breast cancer in 2007, and after going through the surgeries, chemo, and radiation, she has been in the clear since)...  I'm sure she would want you to continue one...maybe you just don't include her on those emails because it's going to be harder for both of you that way.  There is nothing easy about this situation....  but maybe you do something special in her honor during the ceremony, for her not being able to attend...  I guess getting a fell for how she feels as well, who knows, maybe you talking to her about things will help bring her spirits up...I'm not sure what else to say... 

    Married the love of my life in April!!

    #2232 Tifuhhknee

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      Posted 17 January 2011 - 05:48 PM

      Wow y'all make me feel behind!  I sent out "wedding" invites about 3 months ago to give people 6 months notice so they could book. Going to do free postcards for the "reception" invites since we are having an AHR and send those out about a month in advance.



      BM, groom's, and GM attire. Trouble is.. no telling who his GM(s) will be. Waiting to see if who he wants as him BM books or not. Ugh.

      Get the AHR postcards done and ordered.

      I need jewelry.


      I think that's about it.  I am going to take BD photos because my sister is a photographer and hopefully we don't just goof off and laugh, it's hard to be sexy with your sister!! LOL. But my best friend wants some for her husband so we will do them at her house, it's nicer than my mobile home lol. My plan is to sneak it into my luggage and give him as a wedding gift in Mexico.  I am so excited, been hoarding things to wear for it in the back of the closet.


      My bachelorette/lingerie party is going to be April 8 (yay, day after my bday!) and our family style wedding shower will be March 26. All the dates are settled. Now I'm just waiting.

      Destination Wedding: April 21, 2011
      At Home Reception: May 7, 2011
      25 guests + bride + groom booked

      My Wedding Planning Notes

      #2233 mochamakes3

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        Posted 18 January 2011 - 05:45 AM

        Char - It sounds like your half-sister is a very supportive and wonderful person. If anything, she would appreciate that life is so fragile and continue to be happy for you and your FI making your wedding dreams come true. Sure it is tough enjoying something when someone else is going through rough times, but you also have to treasure your special moments. Even if she can't be there, I'm sure she will still be sending her love. Maybe you could start sending a separate message to those that aren't coming with encouraging thoughts? I know a girl who survived breast cancer in her early twenties and if nothing else, she celebrates all the little moments of happiness that happen around her.


        I hope her treatment goes well and that your relationship stays strong.

        #2234 Brandy

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          Posted 18 January 2011 - 06:35 AM

          Tenny I love that dress!! Where did you end up finding it?

          #2235 Brandy

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            Posted 18 January 2011 - 06:36 AM

            Good vibes heading your way Laura!!!!!!


            Love the rings ladies, they are GORGEOUS!!!!!

            #2236 Brandy

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              Posted 18 January 2011 - 06:44 AM

              I agree with Tenny and Erin.....

              Char Im so sorry about your half sis, Im sure shes just as upset about the entire thing, but I think she would feel honored if you still included her in everything.  Am I sure she still wants you to continue on, I think she would feel terrible if you changed it for her.  My best friend since I was 5 isnt able to make it to our wedding for financial reasons but Im still including her in everything.  Like going dress shopping and helping with invites, Im still giving her an oot bag and all of that so she can still somehow feel included in it all and doesnt feel left behind.  Are you having any kind of AHR? Im sure she would be able to make it to that and you could show her all your pictures and everything and Im sure she would be really happy if you took the time to show her all the pics and talk with her about your trip.  Also does your resort provide the thing where they can post your wedding video live so people back home can watch it while its happening, thats another to make people not feel so left out.

              #2237 bryanandchar

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                Posted 18 January 2011 - 07:18 AM

                Thank-you so much for all of the advice ladies, sometimes you just need an outside perspective to make things clear. And sometimes it just helps to say something, I didn't want to talk to my family about how I was feeling for obvious reasons!

                Anyways, thanks so much!!

                #2238 pattyfop

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                  Posted 18 January 2011 - 07:19 AM

                  warning about Le Kliff, My brother booked his daughter's, ( my niece) wedding @ this very cool restaurant in PV,  ( last June) the Grooms parents also decided on having their rehersal dinner as well, My brother paid in  way in advance for dinner /cocktails for around 85 people, He had gone there with his family years before, & had remebered how amazing this place was & the excellant food. Well this was the problem, I am assuming the owners must have spent all the pre-paid money  after they got it months in advance & then had to buy the poorest quality cheapest  food to serve, the fillet mignons were so tough you could not eat them, i dont think they were fillets, they certainly did not look like fillets, some even mentioned they did not think they  came from a cow...the sides were very lack lusture, & the food took forever to be served & was not  at all hot when served, the cake was not good either, the flaming coffee thing they did was only for the B & G & it too fell flat. I felt so sorry for my brother , because I know it cost him a small fortune & there was not much he could do, on the brighter side the passed horderves were very good @ the rehersal dinner,  grilled shrimp on a stick , yum! cocktails were nice to. the place is very beautiful, beware of the swarms of huge mosquitos that can appear out of no where! Don't do steaks! i would do a buffet or food stations, make it Mexican food & or with seafood.  I hope you did not give them full payment! & Good luck!

                  #2239 Tennyt1

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                    Posted 18 January 2011 - 08:02 AM

                    I found the dress at Estells dress store on route 110.. They may have a website.  a

                    Originally Posted by Brandy 

                    Tenny I love that dress!! Where did you end up finding it?


                    ~April 2, 2011 ~ Sandals Grand Ocho Rios ~
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                    #2240 lsmith211

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                      Posted 18 January 2011 - 01:01 PM

                      Lua - Today at lunch I felt brave enough to attempt the interval run on the treadmill that you blogged about - oh my good God!  I made it through the first 17 minutes and then I thought I was going to fall off the treadmill!!  Had to take it back down to no incline to finish the rest of my 30 mins...  I feel like I need to go home and have a nap!


                      But my goal is now to get through the full 30 minutes before I leave for Jamaica!

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