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#1711 Lindobride14

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    Posted 20 May 2010 - 03:51 PM

    Margin & Barbiegirl -- I know it sucks, doesn't it? Our rates were around 2000-2100 two months ago and now they're down to about 1600-1675 depending on flight preferences.

    So rest assured I'm sure they will come down. I still wish ours were lower than what they currently are. I check all the sites (Apple, Funjet) literally every day!!! We have some family members/friends griping about the price, my older sister (MOH) included.

    I just tell people, we hope they will come down, but we can't guarantee they will. Just make sure you have a TA that does pricematching so that when last-minute deals come out closer to your wedding date, your guests' rates will be adjusted.

    #1712 Lindobride14

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      Posted 20 May 2010 - 04:03 PM

      Ok guys I have an etiquette question here. My mom, stepmom, and FMIL are throwing our bridal shower at a restaurant and splitting the cost 3 ways. Next Saturday, all four of us are going to go visit a few restaurants to pick out the venue.

      My mom asked me today if my FMIL is going to want to have an open bar at the shower and I said yes I'm sure she will because I've never been to a party (christening, communion, bridal shower) in their family that wasn't an open bar. I also said that we (FI and I) would really like it to be open bar as well since guests are buying us nice gifts, many will be paying thousands to come to Mexico for the wedding, and I don't want them to gave to buy their own drinks.

      First off, am I wrong here? I feel pushy since they're paying for it and I'm sort of setting the terms. I called my mom back and said I'm sorry for being pushy, I realize it's an added expense and we would be willlng to contribute or chip in (meaning FI and I)

      Secondly, what's typical for the bridal showers you all have been to? I think a lot of people just do bottles of wine and a spiked punch. We are thinking of asking the restaurant if we can do margaritas as a signature drink and offering wine as well.

      #1713 mexbride83

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        Posted 20 May 2010 - 04:21 PM

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        Originally Posted by Lindobride14
        Ok guys I have an etiquette question here. My mom, stepmom, and FMIL are throwing our bridal shower at a restaurant and splitting the cost 3 ways. Next Saturday, all four of us are going to go visit a few restaurants to pick out the venue.

        My mom asked me today if my FMIL is going to want to have an open bar at the shower and I said yes I'm sure she will because I've never been to a party (christening, communion, bridal shower) in their family that wasn't an open bar. I also said that we (FI and I) would really like it to be open bar as well since guests are buying us nice gifts, many will be paying thousands to come to Mexico for the wedding, and I don't want them to gave to buy their own drinks.

        First off, am I wrong here? I feel pushy since they're paying for it and I'm sort of setting the terms. I called my mom back and said I'm sorry for being pushy, I realize it's an added expense and we would be willlng to contribute or chip in (meaning FI and I)

        Secondly, what's typical for the bridal showers you all have been to? I think a lot of people just do bottles of wine and a spiked punch. We are thinking of asking the restaurant if we can do margaritas as a signature drink and offering wine as well.
        Personally, I think it has to be open bar. I have never been to a shower where it isn't, and I think that I would be very annoyed if I bought a nice gift and I made the time to come, then I found out I had to pay to drink. Let's be totally honest, no one REALLY looks forward to a Saturday afternoon spent watching someone open up gifts and play goofy games. I hate to say it but I just went to a shower two weeks ago and the drinks were the only thing to keep me awake haha. But, I don't think you need to have a full bar. Beer and wine would be fine. One shower I went to had just beer and wine and everyone was totally happy with that. But I think it would be very rude to have a cash bar, in my opinion.

        Also, I don't know if this is an option for you to cut down on costs, but another shower I went to recently was held in a rented space in a really nice condo building (DC has lots of those places for rent). The BMs all made a different dish to serve, and they also brought all of the alcohol. This helped to cut out the middle man prices.

        #1714 Lindobride14

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          Posted 20 May 2010 - 04:38 PM

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          Originally Posted by mexbride83
          Personally, I think it has to be open bar. I have never been to a shower where it isn't, and I think that I would be very annoyed if I bought a nice gift and I made the time to come, then I found out I had to pay to drink. Let's be totally honest, no one REALLY looks forward to a Saturday afternoon spent watching someone open up gifts and play goofy games. I hate to say it but I just went to a shower two weeks ago and the drinks were the only thing to keep me awake haha. But, I don't think you need to have a full bar. Beer and wine would be fine. One shower I went to had just beer and wine and everyone was totally happy with that. But I think it would be very rude to have a cash bar, in my opinion.

          Also, I don't know if this is an option for you to cut down on costs, but another shower I went to recently was held in a rented space in a really nice condo building (DC has lots of those places for rent). The BMs all made a different dish to serve, and they also brought all of the alcohol. This helped to cut out the middle man prices.
          I totally agree! The booze is the only thing that gets me through bridal/baby showers! I thought maybe I was off base on this. I just feel awkward barking demands since I'm not paying, ya know? How do I be firm and not look like a spoiled brat?

          My sister's baby shower this past fall was a cash bar so that's of course the basis for comparison. My mom, stepmom and sister's MIL split the cost of that. I personally think that's tacky. If you can't afford to have a party in a restaurant, then have it at someone's home or a place like you mentioned!

          When it comes down to it, I know my FMIL will not allow it to be cash bar. I just hope my mom and stepmom don't allow her to pay more than her share. FI's family is very very generous and are the type of people you have to pry the bill from when we go to a restaurant . . .

          #1715 vaniavargasvaladez

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            Posted 20 May 2010 - 05:05 PM

            Hello to every one. Im get married in april 16 of 2011. In Guadalajara, Mexico.
            Im from Mexico and i deffinitely recomend the beach in Cancun, there is a incredible place, you are surrounded by beautiful landscapes.
            Check the pictures and you will love it.

            #1716 Nicyx

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              Posted 20 May 2010 - 05:53 PM

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              Originally Posted by josietoms
              Yep time is running away with us so quickly - I got told by one of my BMs today - 8 months on Monday is my wedding day - cant believe how quickly its all coming round!

              I got THE email today - the one telling me my dress is ready - so exciting - didnt think i would be this excited now it all seems so real...... i got it from an online company so they will be couriering it to my mums so i should have it next week and then they will make any alterations i may need.
              Oooo, thats so so exciting :-) Cant wait to see pix. Oooo it really is all starting to happen now
              I am and then I'm not, haha. I want it to hurry and get here because I know it's going to be one of the best weeks of my life, partying with friends and family in Mexico for a week and ending it with my dream wedding. Not to mention that by the time I'm there, I'll have FINISHED grad school, and more importantly, my thesis! But then I realize how much I still have left to do (both for the wedding and the thesis haha) and then I start wishing for more time. If only there were 36 hours in a day:)

              But I do have lots to look forward to in the next year, despite all of the stress that it'll be bring. One week from tomorrow, May 28th (yes, the one year pre-anniversary to our wedding), I leave for Malawi! I'll be spending 10 weeks there for a summer internship with WFP. I know that's going to be the experience of a lifetime :) Then, in the fall, we're going to do a long weekend trip to Mexico for a site visit. Not sure yet if it'll be me and the fiance going or me and my mom. Then, in January, my fiance moves to Hawaii
              Ok guys I have an etiquette question here. My mom, stepmom, and FMIL are throwing our bridal shower at a restaurant and splitting the cost 3 ways. Next Saturday, all four of us are going to go visit a few restaurants to pick out the venue.

              My mom asked me today if my FMIL is going to want to have an open bar at the shower and I said yes I'm sure she will because I've never been to a party (christening, communion, bridal shower) in their family that wasn't an open bar. I also said that we (FI and I) would really like it to be open bar as well since guests are buying us nice gifts, many will be paying thousands to come to Mexico for the wedding, and I don't want them to gave to buy their own drinks.

              First off, am I wrong here? I feel pushy since they're paying for it and I'm sort of setting the terms. I called my mom back and said I'm sorry for being pushy, I realize it's an added expense and we would be willlng to contribute or chip in (meaning FI and I)

              Secondly, what's typical for the bridal showers you all have been to? I think a lot of people just do bottles of wine and a spiked punch. We are thinking of asking the restaurant if we can do margaritas as a signature drink and offering wine as well.
              Sorry not much i can help here as us here in the UK dont do bridal showers like you lovelys across the water, wish we did though as they always sound fab and sound like you have so much fun :-) We have a hen night, usually this is a night on the tiles with our friends or something a little more reserved depending on what your in to.....
              I must say i do like the idea of an open bar though :-)
              I WANT A BRIDAL SHOWER!!!! xoxo

              Quote:
              Originally Posted by vaniavargasvaladez
              Hello to every one. Im get married in april 16 of 2011. In Guadalajara, Mexico.
              Im from Mexico and i deffinitely recomend the beach in Cancun, there is a incredible place, you are surrounded by beautiful landscapes.
              Check the pictures and you will love it.
              & congratulations :-) Do you have any pix you can post here? xoxo

              #1717 prettypigpig

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                Posted 20 May 2010 - 11:39 PM

                Quote:
                Originally Posted by Lindobride14
                Ok guys I have an etiquette question here. My mom, stepmom, and FMIL are throwing our bridal shower at a restaurant and splitting the cost 3 ways. Next Saturday, all four of us are going to go visit a few restaurants to pick out the venue.

                My mom asked me today if my FMIL is going to want to have an open bar at the shower and I said yes I'm sure she will because I've never been to a party (christening, communion, bridal shower) in their family that wasn't an open bar. I also said that we (FI and I) would really like it to be open bar as well since guests are buying us nice gifts, many will be paying thousands to come to Mexico for the wedding, and I don't want them to gave to buy their own drinks.

                First off, am I wrong here? I feel pushy since they're paying for it and I'm sort of setting the terms. I called my mom back and said I'm sorry for being pushy, I realize it's an added expense and we would be willlng to contribute or chip in (meaning FI and I)

                Secondly, what's typical for the bridal showers you all have been to? I think a lot of people just do bottles of wine and a spiked punch. We are thinking of asking the restaurant if we can do margaritas as a signature drink and offering wine as well.
                Open bar is the way to go! you can limit the offering in order to control your cost! i.e. Only domestic beer, and decent wines like a cheap but good Californian wine...and no champagne or Blue Johnny Walker or Chivas! Do it as a lunch/brunch too will help, as people will not drink like fish that early...ok...if your guests are brokers, traders...then it is a different story.

                Bonnie

                Married to Mr. El Khaiat on July 4th, 2011 @ Royal Playa Del Carmen


                #1718 prettypigpig

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                  Posted 21 May 2010 - 12:07 AM

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                  Originally Posted by mexbride83
                  I am and then I'm not, haha. I want it to hurry and get here because I know it's going to be one of the best weeks of my life, partying with friends and family in Mexico for a week and ending it with my dream wedding. Not to mention that by the time I'm there, I'll have FINISHED grad school, and more importantly, my thesis! But then I realize how much I still have left to do (both for the wedding and the thesis haha) and then I start wishing for more time. If only there were 36 hours in a day:)

                  But I do have lots to look forward to in the next year, despite all of the stress that it'll be bring. One week from tomorrow, May 28th (yes, the one year pre-anniversary to our wedding), I leave for Malawi! I'll be spending 10 weeks there for a summer internship with WFP. I know that's going to be the experience of a lifetime :) Then, in the fall, we're going to do a long weekend trip to Mexico for a site visit. Not sure yet if it'll be me and the fiance going or me and my mom. Then, in January, my fiance moves to Hawaii But I get to spend spring break there in March! Then comes thesis defense, graduation, FINALLY the wedding, then a trip to Napa, and a move to Hawaii for me!

                  I get exhausted just thinking about what the next year holds. But in a good way
                  I would love to move to Hawaii, great weather, great reef, great surf! When you are in school, time flies by so fast.

                  Bonnie

                  Married to Mr. El Khaiat on July 4th, 2011 @ Royal Playa Del Carmen


                  #1719 Lindobride14

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                    Posted 21 May 2010 - 09:17 AM

                    Quote:
                    Originally Posted by prettypigpig
                    Open bar is the way to go! you can limit the offering in order to control your cost! i.e. Only domestic beer, and decent wines like a cheap but good Californian wine...and no champagne or Blue Johnny Walker or Chivas! Do it as a lunch/brunch too will help, as people will not drink like fish that early...ok...if your guests are brokers, traders...then it is a different story.
                    haha luckily all the wedding guests that are brokers & traders are male so they won't be at the shower. Thanks for the advice . . . I am ultimately going to insist on an open bar because this shower is a reflection of us.

                    #1720 MR1124

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                      Posted 21 May 2010 - 10:13 AM

                      Hi 2011 Bride!!

                      Welcome to this great forum!! I've gotten so much information here. Our date is not official but we are gearing towards June 2011 in Cancun. We are planning a visit next month to take a look at our top 3 hotel choices.. Can't wait!




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