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#1 hat0112

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    Posted 16 December 2009 - 02:08 PM

    Ok, so I am a bridesmaid for a wedding this New Years Eve. I have shelled out A LOT of money so far for this wedding. Almost $1,000 for the dress, alterations, shoes, bridal shower, bachelor/ette party, and I have to pay for my hair and makeup.

    My question is, how much do I have to give the couple from my FI and I for the wedding? I have heard from $50 to $150.

    What do you guys think?
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    #2 kris

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      Posted 16 December 2009 - 02:25 PM

      Personally I would be happy with nothing, 50 at most especially if you paid for everything. I told all my bridesmaids I didn't want anything from them because they had to pay for their dresses and their flights to come to my wedding about $2500.00 each.

      #3 NaM

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        Posted 16 December 2009 - 02:32 PM

        I personally wouldn't expect anything from you. The bride should realize you already spent a lot on the wedding and I think a card or a small joint gift from all the BM would be more than sufficent.

        #4 TheFutureMrs.Sears

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          Posted 16 December 2009 - 02:32 PM

          I guess it depends what you can afford to spend. I always give enough to cover my plate and my guests plate regardless of what I spent to be in the wedding. typically we give anywhere from $250.00 - $300.00. When accepting to be a bridesmaid you are accepting the fact that you are going to spend money on all the things you listed in addition to your gift on the day of the wedding.
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          #5 snoopAsh

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            Posted 16 December 2009 - 03:23 PM

            I wouldn't give anything. I usually show up with chamagne, orange juice, beer and flowers. :) You being there is enough in my opinion.

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            #6 Jess

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              Posted 16 December 2009 - 03:25 PM

              I think you are spending enough - if you want to give a gift though I say $50 is more than enough

              #7 hat0112

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                Posted 16 December 2009 - 04:17 PM

                Sorry - I forgot to mention this isn't a DW and I don't have to travel.
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                #8 snoopAsh

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                  Posted 16 December 2009 - 04:25 PM

                  I still don't think that you should give anything else. You gave her your time and money buy throwing her parties. It is a gift from you.

                  I wouldn't give her anything else.
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                  #9 ~Nicole~

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                    Posted 16 December 2009 - 05:44 PM

                    I agree that they shouldn't really expect anything from you, but I guess it depends what you're comfortable with. DH and I were both in a wedding for our friends this year. Between the two of us we spent about $1500 towards attire, stag, bachelorette and everything else that goes along with it. We gave them $400 as a gift but they are really close friends of ours and we wanted to. I would never think someone is obligated to do that.
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                    #10 super19

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                      Posted 16 December 2009 - 05:45 PM

                      I would say $50 is a good amount to give as a gift. I'm sure she appreciates all you've done to be in the wedding and would appreciate any gift that you gave.




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