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#1 mexicobride10

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    Posted 30 October 2009 - 02:03 PM

    Hey everyone,
    hope all your planning is going smoothly.
    I have a question and need some advice.
    My finance's mother is inviting all her single friends to the wedding. They are all in their 60's and none of them are in a relationship. Do I need to invite them with a guest? I am afraid if I do they may think they can bring a friend or something and I really dont want that. Our number is getting higher than we wanted.

    Is it wrong to not invite them with guests? I dont think any of them are planning on coming just dont know what to do.


    #2 vlynnw

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      Posted 30 October 2009 - 02:42 PM

      It's not wrong at all. I'm only inviting one person to be able to bring a guest and that is one of my BM's other than that I'm not using it as an option to help control the guest list.
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      #3 SSNM

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        Posted 31 October 2009 - 08:43 PM

        The only guests I am allowing to bring a guest is those who I feel will stick out like a sore thumb at my wedding. That is, they are not bridal party and will not know anyone else other than myself or FI. Otherwise, everyone should be able to get along with each other and not need a plus one.

        #4 *Meagan*

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          Posted 31 October 2009 - 08:47 PM

          I dont think its wrong at all either! I think hey if they come thats cool! But no one has to have a guest.

          We personally told anyone they can bring anyone because its a vacation and our wedding is just one day. The more the merrier!

          #5 poohshek

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            Posted 31 October 2009 - 08:53 PM

            It is perfectly okay not to invite the "plus one guest" unless you are prepared to have a bigger wedding group. If those invited really want to bring a guest, they can check with you after receiving the invitation.

            #6 alkoch

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              Posted 31 October 2009 - 10:33 PM

              I think its fine too - I kinda did half and half I didn't know who I should say and guest and not say it for (divorcees? Widows?) But I'm sure if they really want to bring someone they will.

              #7 sweetiecat

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                Posted 01 November 2009 - 12:40 AM

                I believe the etiquette rule is that you only have to invite a guest if the invitee is in a serious relationship (i.e., married, engaged, or some say living together). Otherwise, you're in the clear to invite them by themselves. For a destination wedding, I might relax this a little if the person didn't know many of the other guests very well so that they would be more comfortable. For a group of single ladies in their 60s, however, I think they would spend most of their time together so it would be fine to invite them without guests.

                #8 affiwin

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                  Posted 01 November 2009 - 12:42 PM

                  It's ok to just invite each guest and then then can check with you if they seriously want to bring someone along. You have to manage your head count and costs. But what I keep telling myself when it comes to invites is that not everyone will come anyway.

                  #9 echo2_62

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                    Posted 01 November 2009 - 01:28 PM

                    I'm having this same problem as well because although our invitations did not include '& guest' for any of our singles, we've had a couple friends that have just assumed they can bring someone if they want to because they are paying their own way. I agree that for the odd person this wouldn't be a problem because they aren't part of our "normal" group so they won't know anyone at our wedding really... but a couple of these people we hang out with ALL the time so will have no problems fitting in. I don't want to be mean and say that they don't deserve to have a guest come but at the same time we're trying to be conscious of our numbers too. We only invited 50 people as this was the high end max for us and we knew that it was likely we'd get close to that number based on the specific people invited. Arg... not sure what to do!

                    #10 IrishgirlinNY

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                      Posted 01 November 2009 - 02:43 PM

                      Most of my friends and family are a serious couple. I do have one friend and my twin sister that are not in a serious relationship. My sister has mentioned about bring her daughters father that no one in my family likes. We do not want him there, so it has been made clear that he is not allowed. I figure as long as my sister and one single friend know someone at the wedding, and they both know plenty, they do not have to HAVE a guest. We, like others, are trying to leave the list to just close family and friends and I really dont want people to bring someone just to bring them. Just my view.

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