How to tell sisters they are not BM?

[Brenners]

I have four sisters who are quite a bit older than me - love them all but I do not want four bridesmaids. I just want one MOH and that is it. I am doing a DW to avoid a huge wedding at home. My sisters are not interested in standing in front of a crowd anyway so I don't think that they will mind not having to do that, however, I am concerned that their feelings may still be hurt. I would like to have my best friend be my MOH. Any suggestions on how to tell the sisters?

[frazali]

I was "best woman" in a buddy of mine's wedding. He has 2 brothers. He told them that he couldn't choose between them, so he chose his best friend.

 

I think you'd be able to do the same thing. Just say that you can't choose among them, so you chose to have a good friend stand up for you. Also just explain that you only want to have one other person stand up for you, and that's your MOH.

[Sheree10]

Tell them they are all special and you didn't want to choose between them. Also that you wanted a small bridal party... they can still be involved with the wedding.

[Brenners]

I like the idea of including them for a reading or something similar but it still keeps it a small wedding party. Thanks for the help ladies!

[Love3]

honesty is the best policy!!

[BachataBride]

I think it's easy...you're only have a MOH so, like the others said say you can't chose!!

[*tanga*]

I am in the exact same position and I agree that Getting them to do a reading is a nice way to include my sisters ( I have 3 ) but then the hard part is what do they say!? Back to the search function I go....

[becks]

I didn't have anyone stand with me. Between my 5 best friends and my sister, it just wasn't a possibility. So, I made them all "unofficial bridesmaids" I asked them all to dress in some shade of pink, and they hung out with me while I got ready. It was great fun and very low key for them, too.

[Brenners]

Yes - what four (Good Lord!) readings would they do? I just did a reading at a wedding and my sisters seemed relieved that they weren't chosen to do it. Maybe I will just provide them with lots of island drinks and they won't know the difference or remember a thing...