How is everyone already busy a year away?

[rodent]

What about the last weekend in may? Find the opening with your immediate family & just set that as the date.

[Sheree10]

I know it's not easy. Maybe you can find a date that the immediate family can make. Remember it's your wedding and you can't make everyone happy.

 

Good luck!!

[Jamaica0619]

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Originally Posted by Sloan People will still flake out on your DW even if you gave them 10 years in advance. Do what you and FI want and if people really want to go and they can, they will. I'd still be trying to figure out what month/day/year to get hitched if I listened to my friends/family. Just my two cents.

I agree 100%. My now husband and I dated for 13 years and have been saying for at least the past 8 that if we get married it will be a destination wedding. Yet some of our family and friends were still surprised and I think (thank goodness they never said it) some what annoyed that we choose to do that. Go figure

Do your best to pick a date to make as many of the most important people happy as you can and go for it...or worse case scenrio - pick a date and if it is important enough to them, they will find a way to be there. If you try to make too many people happy, you will only make yourself and your FI miserable.

[Jo 2010]

we gave people almost two years notice - TWO YEARS - and still had all the same things

 

my auty - "but if your cousin goes to uni, that could be his exam period"

his uncle - if the team i coach made the footy finals, thats in footy season"

 

ARE YOU KIDDING ME??!!

[ms.nadia]

Thanks, everyone, for the reality check and suggestions. We finally picked the one weekend -- one! -- during all of next summer that works (last wknd in July) for our immediate families. So far no complaints about that date, and even one cheer, from a cousin who is a teacher. Now, on to deal with every other insane element of trying to pull this off!

[Sheree10]

Wonderful... you're moving in the right direction!!

[Love3]

I totally agree SLOAN!!! Just pick what works for you. We gave people 4mths notice lol. Not for any specific reason other then we were looking for 3mths prior to the 4mths for a resort!!! We also didn't care who came other then us, so we had the attitude of whoever comes great, if not pis* on you lol kidding we are more then o.k with us just being there, but the more choices and ownership you give ppl the more they take and the more problems they bring!!

[SSNM]

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Originally Posted by Love3 I totally agree SLOAN!!! Just pick what works for you. We gave people 4mths notice lol. Not for any specific reason other then we were looking for 3mths prior to the 4mths for a resort!!! We also didn't care who came other then us, so we had the attitude of whoever comes great, if not pis* on you lol kidding we are more then o.k with us just being there, but the more choices and ownership you give ppl the more they take and the more problems they bring!!

lol..I like your style!

I say do what you want and let them fall in or out. People will make time for the things that they want regardless of what else is going on in their lives.