What would you do if you found
Posted 24 June 2009 - 01:55 PM
Like PPs said, I think it would be much better to ask him what he wants done with them.
Posted 29 June 2009 - 04:41 PM
Posted 29 June 2009 - 05:18 PM
Posted 07 July 2009 - 02:59 AM
But I would probably just mention that I found them as I was going to throw them out and double check to make sure he didn't mind(and really really hope he doesn't say he does mind lol)
Posted 07 July 2009 - 06:39 AM
Sorry I am late on this post, but as for myself, I find that a one year time limit is the longest I will ever hang onto anything from a past, personal relationship. That way, you can make peace with whatever feelings you might have that need to be sorted out or brought to closure. But, when it's someone else's stuff, especially your FI's.....hmmm. Well, I think if you really want to see what he would do with these pics and letters, you should "let" him find them. I'd just put the box with these things in them amongst a pile of other junk that either needs to be saved or thrown away and see what he does. Is that shady? Perhaps to some, but then you wouldn't have the outright confrontation and it wouldn't look like you had intentionally invaded his privacy. Chances are very good that he'll try to discreetly dispose of them (not ever thinking you'd seen them) so as to not upset you.
But this is coming from me, someone who can be just as crazy-jealous as anyone when it comes to ex's! My FI is a U.S. mail carrier while he finishes his degree, and I wanted to freak out when I found out that one of his ex-loves (a girl he was with for a number of years in a rocky relationship) is on his mail route! I had all these crazy ideas and scenarios whipping through my mind, like that he'd be delivering her mail or a parcel and she'd want to try to rekindle their past relationship or some such nonsense! Nuts, right?! From what I understand, she's married with 2 kids, but that didn't prevent my imagination from running wild!
At any rate, I think that it's easy for any woman, regardless of how strong she thinks she, or her relationship, may be to totally be "okay" with the thought of her man's ex(s). If you really love someone, you don't want anything or anyone to jeopardize that, and you're totally human to have been sort of taken aback by this discovery. I'm sure you'll do what you think is best, but when this all goes down, please keep us posted, because we're here for you, lady!
The BDW has always got your back!
Posted 07 July 2009 - 08:40 AM
BIG SIGH OF RELIEF!
So glad to have that gone!
Thank you ladies!!!!
Posted 07 July 2009 - 05:01 PM
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