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#1 YaelM


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    Posted 05 June 2009 - 12:45 PM

    Hi - I tried searching for this and couldn't find anything...

    When did you or when are you planning to have your first dance?

    Was it right after you got introduced and before the food was served OR after everyone ate and before cake cutting to get the dancing started?

    I see pros and cons for both options and would love to get everyone's opinions


    #2 Erika J

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      Posted 05 June 2009 - 12:49 PM

      Yael- We are doing the first dance right after we are announced since we will not have the photographer for the whole reception. this way he can for sure get pics of it.

      #3 *Nadine*

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        Posted 05 June 2009 - 12:52 PM

        I am with Erika.. the bridal party will be announced and then we will be announced, and then we will immediately go right into the first dance followed by father/daughter-mother/son dance.

        #4 ilovemypitbull

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          Posted 05 June 2009 - 12:53 PM

          I love that you asked this question Yael! I've been wondering the same thing. I think I'm going to go with the second option because I think that doing it before dinner is kind of stilted. I like the option of doing it after dinner to kick start the dancing. But then where does the father-daughter dance come in? Is it weird to do the father-daughter dance right after dinner and then have your new hubbie come and take you from your father for the first dance, and then open up the floor to dancing? To me that seems like the most seamless, logical, and non-awkward way to do it but I don't know if that's overdoing it for the guests, to make them watch two emotional dances in row.

          Curious to hear the opinions and experiences of others!

          - Jen

          #5 jamaicabride09

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            Posted 05 June 2009 - 12:55 PM

            We plan on going into our first dance right after we are announced. I have seen it done both ways and I really like it after the introductions. Once the formalities are over, everyone can have fun and party!

            #6 YaelM


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              Posted 05 June 2009 - 12:58 PM

              We arent doing the father/daughter dance so thats why we were thinking to do it after dinner - but i do really like the idea of doing it right when we get introduced.

              #7 Susanandmo

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                Posted 05 June 2009 - 01:31 PM

                We did it after everyone eat... We didn't have any of the other traditional dances (Father/Daughter, etc...).

                We decided to have it after the dinner to get eveyone on the dance floor and it worked out great... Some of our guest felt the pressure not to leave us hanging (in the dance floor by ourselfs) :0)

                I don't really see any cons with doing it after you are introduce thou... Either way should be fine!

                #8 mariej

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                  Posted 06 June 2009 - 08:58 AM

                  I'm really having a difficult time trying to organize this as well. We are having a SMALL wedding.Only about 8 guests so we will be having our dinner at one of the a la carte restaurants. Is it weird to have the dances in the restaurant? i was thinking after supper before cutting the cake. But I feel it might be awkward? Any opinions....?

                  #9 smith3576

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                    Posted 25 June 2009 - 08:26 PM

                    I just went to a small wedding (~20 people) and they just had a dinner reception in a small room of a restaurant. After the dinner and cake and everything, they got up and danced to their song, and then we joined them in the tiny little space. It was fine! I actually don't think they even planned to do it because it wasn't announced or anything, but it worked out well and didn't seem awkward.
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                    #10 jamaicabride10

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                      Posted 25 June 2009 - 09:01 PM

                      I think we are going to do it after dinner as I have heard that sometimes the party never actually gets going unless you start it off. I suppose it depends on how many people are joining you and if you want a party atmosphere after the dinner? And also if you are having your reception in a private/public area. Also we are not doing the father/daughter or other dances. My MOH has planned to get everyone up to join us after our song for a boogie :). We are having a private reception on the beach, so no small restaurant spaces to worry about :)
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