I dislike my maid of honor
Posted 10 May 2009 - 06:32 PM
I have asked my sister-in-law to be my maid of honour... not because she is my best or closest friend but because we have drifted so far apart I thought it would help our relationship. She cried when I asked her but since then she has not really been into it except going along to buy bridesmaids dresses. Other than that she never brings the wedding subject up. She is not really into going to Mexico as she is a self proclaimed germ-a-phob and never misses an opportunity to ask me "Why Mexico? and remind me of all her fears of what "3rd world" problems we might enounter.
My brother has been married to her for 15 years and for the first 10 years we were very, very close. Over the last 5 years she has become someone I do not even like so much and the rest of my family has had huge issues with her also. We have all tried to make peace with her but she is very opinionated and hurtful and we often feel what is the point.
I was very close to my brother and my 2 wonderful neices but it had got to the point were if not seeing her meant not seeing them than so be it.
I really feel she has no idea how hurtful she can be and even today Mother's day she was rude to my mom. I wanted to say something but did not want to rock the boat.
So here I am stuck with a woman I do not like very much anymore as my maid of honour.
I can't disinvite her so I need some advise as to how I can get through the next 6 months without causing an even bigger rift in the family. I know once I open my mouth I won't stop so I can't start.
Thanks for listening to me vent,
Posted 10 May 2009 - 06:44 PM
Sorry to babble there, but if you don't have any BM's, let us know and we can see what other ideas we can come up with.
Posted 10 May 2009 - 07:01 PM
I did not ask my best friend as I thought the olive branch situation needed to be done HA!
My bff has been very understanding of my decision and has told me she will be right behind me all the way. I really wish she could be beside me instead!
I am very, very sad and wish I could turn back time and do what I really should have done in the first place.
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Posted 10 May 2009 - 07:42 PM
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Posted 10 May 2009 - 08:19 PM
I am not good at these things I tend to be very blunt and to the point. So if it were me I would just tell her that you are very disappointed in her behaviour and that if she doesn't want the job than you would already have someone waiting to take her place. But that is me. You someone to share the excitment not bring you down!
Posted 10 May 2009 - 08:41 PM
As the old folks say, you catch more flies with honey than vinegar. Since this IS such a..sensitive situation and you don't want to upset the family and your brother in particular, approach her from the stand point of trying to get close and see how she reacts. If she gets touchy and doesn't meet you halfway, I'd probably just end up telling her. You may not end up having a BM who can do all the bridal stuff with you, but maybe it will bring things to a head and you'll either be able to spend the next six months not having to fake it or having the air cleared.
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Posted 10 May 2009 - 09:46 PM
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