Bachelorette party etiquette dilemma
Posted 30 March 2009 - 01:59 PM
So my sister is my MOH and I am not having any other bridal party. I did this becuase it just worked for me. FI is also just having his bro as best man. We thought this would keep it simple and less stressful for our dear friends that are all coming to Mexico. Anyway.. I never really told my sister anything about what I wanted or expected form her and I feel sort of weird now becuase I am wondering if she is planning any sort of bridal shower/bachelorette party for me.
I have always been super duper laid back about these sorts of things and declined having a sweet 16, a big graduation party, an engagement party any of these BIG sort of things. This was also why I wanted a destination wedding. I like intimate. Now here I am 1 month and 3 wks away and I'm like wait- I want one. I don't think a bridal shower but a bachelorette party. Part of me thinks that my sis will plan something on her own and maybe surprise me (in which case I sort of feel like an a**) but if you were me whould you ask?
My other concern is that I'm not sure that she knows that she would need to invite more than just my close friends. She has to invite ALL the women (friends) invited to the wedding right? Even if they can't make it to Mexico..Is that how it works?
- Do I ask her and make sure she knows she needs to ask everyone (if she's planning)?
- or do I just let it play out and keep my mouth shut?
* btw I said something to fi and he's like "i think Jess will do something... don't worry." but it wasn't that convincing.
** Then again, maybe I'm just having a werido insecure, bridal moment..hmm
thanks for the feedback ladies
Posted 30 March 2009 - 02:09 PM
Posted 30 March 2009 - 02:10 PM
Maybe you can ask her if there's a particular day you should keep open on your calendar wink wink. Or you can always ask her and then offer your help w/ getting people's contact info. It's getting close to your wedding date, so it may either be a surprise or she may have assumed you didn't want a party.
All the female friends should be invited from what I know... so no hurt feelings
Posted 30 March 2009 - 02:12 PM
Posted 30 March 2009 - 02:13 PM
Maybe you could get your FI to snoop for you!! Have him mention to your sis that you were wondering about it...but tell him to make her think it was him asking...not you!!
For a b'ette I dont' think you have to invite everyone...but I dont think it is limited to only people going to mexico. I would invite friends that you want there! A lot of people do the whole mom's, aunts, etc. But my b'ette was my friends only & that's the way I wanted it!! I think everyone invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower...but not the b-ette (IMO).
Posted 30 March 2009 - 02:16 PM
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Posted 30 March 2009 - 02:19 PM
I am having a Bridal Shower which I'm inviting all the ladies (locally) who are invited to the wedding. This will be more of a "formal/family" type thing. But my friends are also invited.
I sent my MOH/BMs a list of ppl to invite to the shower and put an asterisk next to the names of girls who would be invited to BOTH (bach. party too). So only about half of them will be invited to the bach. party. It will be a lingerie party and we'll probably hit a strip club afterward so definitely didn't want family attending that!
Oh, and I did make sure that everyone who was invited to either party was already on the invite list for MX. I didn't want to invite "acquaintance" type friends who might feel left out that they weren't invited to the wedding! We are going to have a big AHR after the wedding and invite everyone to that.
~ Jaime & Martin ~
"Rain or Swine! 2-0-0-9"
We had 24 people attend our wedding in Las Caletas, Mexico on May 24th, 2009!
We all stayed at The Marriott in P.V., and Honeymooned at The Royal Plantation in Ochos Rios, Jamaica!
Posted 30 March 2009 - 02:57 PM
me "Hey ummmmm I don't want to sound wierd or anything but were you gonna plan a bach party or anything?"
her"OMG I totally need to I'm sooo sorry what do you want to do? Just tell me and I'll plan it"
SO it was kind of funny in the end and all worked out!! We had a co-ed bachelor/bachelorette party on a party bus, it was super fun and went to bars and around the towns that we lived in - just an idea, don't know if you FI is having a bach party of his own! Anyways kinda long story but the point is - just call her!!!
Posted 30 March 2009 - 04:22 PM
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