You should be more social.....WTF?!?
Posted 23 January 2009 - 06:00 PM
Background story-Before xmas i had my review and it went quite well....The one thing my boss told me to work on was being more social. Now, when I was hired to do my job the project i took on completely limits my interaction with my co-workers. That being said, I do still manage to go for coffee with some girls and I have befriended some people in other departments. I am a very shy person-until i get to know someone, and then I am quite outgoing. I am easily intimidated by people and that is a barrier that I try to get over daily. I am also the type of person who gets so focused on my work and deadlines that I don't WANT to talk to people some days!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I like to come to work, do my job and then leave. If i make friends during that time, then great!!!
So yesterday my boss comes in my office and makes small talk with me and then asks if I've "gotten a chance to go around and talk to people?" Whcih I haven't-according to his standards that I should....
I don't WANT to go in to peoples' offices and sit down and interrupt them and talk about nothing!!! I feel that I am very friendly to people, say hi and make stupid small talk in the elevators etc. I'm not a total bitch!!! The girls in my group are very clickey(sp?) and I know they look at me like I'm standoffish.
I'm just frustrated....am i here to work, or socialize??!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted 23 January 2009 - 06:05 PM
I don't have any advice for you, except act how you want to act. As long as you are professional and it isn't interfering with your job or networking. Your boss needs to understand that we aren't all cookie-cutter with the same outgoing personality.
Posted 23 January 2009 - 06:10 PM
Posted 23 January 2009 - 06:16 PM
I actually prefer focussing on friendships outside of work, for various reasons. The most obvious reason to me is that I prefer, on my own time, to talk about non-work related issues. Also, I don't like it when people come chit chat with me while I'm trying to get my work done so I try and respect the right of others to work in peace. I can't believe your boss is giving you grief about all this!
Posted 23 January 2009 - 06:24 PM
I think she may have been trying to say I'm too social, but seriously, she's crazy so I took that with a grain of salt.
Soo hmm...did your boss clarify why he wants you to be more "social?" Are people in the office intimidated to talk to you? Does he want you to be more approachable?
Posted 23 January 2009 - 06:25 PM
Chanti-I can't believe he's giving me grief about this either...not to mention the fact that he came to my office and specifically asked if i've talked to other people.
Give me a break!!!
Posted 23 January 2009 - 08:04 PM
Now like Rachel said, if it's a "She's not approachable" issue, then that's different. FI had a similar issue because he's a security guard and is 6'8", 350 lbs, and of native descent, so he looks somewhat intimidating, but he just smiles and makes small talk with the employees and now they all know he's a teddy bear. I say just nicely ask your boss why he wants you to be more social, and explain that you feel like you are already socializing at an acceptable level. It's not like you're the loner stuffed in the corner who doesn't talk or say Hi to anyone, you've actually befriended a few co-workers. What more does he want?
Posted 23 January 2009 - 10:06 PM
Posted 23 January 2009 - 11:48 PM
I agree, as long as it's not some weird thing like this or that people are talking badly about you because they're misinterpreting your shyness, just go about things thew ay you do.
Posted 24 January 2009 - 08:08 AM
You can't win with some people as long as your work is done ignore him bugger all he can do to you lol
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