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Wow, wow, wow...that's really rough! Is this the only day he can do this? I find it hard to believe that out of the 365 days of the year it would have to fall on the week of your wedding. Is this his way of getting out of going to your wedding? We're they planning on attending? To me it seems suspicious and I absolutely don't blame you for getting upset.

 

Talk it out and find out if there is another reason behind all this!

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Oh whoops...apologies...I didn't realize they were doing the renewal in PV where your wedding was.

 

Still talk it out with them before you get too upset and someone gets hurt!

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Hell no cmon how can he even ask you that. You and FI have put in all the work planning for this special day for you. He wants to take the easy way out. Just tell him no sorry your going to have to do your on planning on this one sorry. A suggestion might be that he can maybe surprise her by telling his wife on the last day of the vacation that he would like to do a vow renewal. Let us know how it goes.

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.... ? Seriously? I'm waiting for the "January Fools!"

 

No. That's just not going to work. Want me to talk to him? I'll set him straight. He thinks his wife is going to be flattered by a vow renewal the same day as your wedding?

 

1) She'll be pissed that she has to share her day as much as you would be (and me also in that case).

 

2) She'll be pissed that he is trying to pinch pennies on a vow renewal by doing a "joint wedding." Who does that?!

 

 

It's very sweet that he wants to do this for their marriage and I am sure she will love it. But she will love it more if the delivery is executed in a way that makes it their unique day.

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Originally Posted by MarieSam View Post
Oh HELL NO!!!! shameonyou.gif Although he has good intentions, your cousin's husband is clearly clueless as to how tacky, obtrusive and ridiculous of an idea this is to piggyback your day and do a double wedding?? Put your foot down girl!!! mad2.gif

Let him know, that while you think it's wonderful that he's trying to surprise your cousin, this is a special day that is important to both you and FI. Tell him you guys really want to just focus on each other that day and it's something you've planned for a long time. If necessary, bring up the idea of maybe doing it in the days AFTER your wedding...although to me, that's still a bit tacky confused.gif

But yes ~ I strongly support a big HELL NO to the idea!!!!
Bravo! That's exactly how I would have put it! DO NOT let him ruin your day. You have every right to have the wedding of YOUR dreams and not have to share it. You do this once in a lifetime (well twice for me, kind of ...hehe). Be strong and DON'T GIVE IN. You put a lot of effort and hard work into this.

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He's a man. He has no idea how inappropriate it would be. Don't be too hard on him, he is actually trying to plan something nice for his wife and he deserves credit for that!

 

Just be nice and kindly explain to him that it would hurt your feelings because you want that day to be YOUR day and you don't want to share it. BUT....you wouldn't care if he did that the next day or so after YOUR day.

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Sounds all to familiar - when we planned our DW we called my FI's (now my DH) sister and she was engaged too and she actually decided to get married while we were there too - major drama - but it happened. My advice however is to say NO WAY! This is YOUR wedding - it's not a free for all vow renewal marriage vacation for everybody. You went to the trouble of finding the spot, booking your wedding, and trust me you will feel taken advantage of and that you are sharing your wedding with someone else. Trust me on this one. Good Luck!

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HEY GIRLS THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH FOR ALL YOUR OPINIONS AND HELP! I DID SPEAK TO HIM AND HE REALIZED THAT IT WAS WRONG OF HIM TO EVEN THINK OF THAT. THEY ARE HAVING A VOW RENEWAL CEREMONY WITH A BRUNCH THE DAY FOLLOWING MY WEDDING. IM SO HAPP IT DIDNT TURN OUT TO BE A BIG MESS AND THAT I WAS ABLE TO RESOLVE IT QUICKLY AND EASILY. I FEEL A THOUSAND POUNDS LIFTED OFF MY SHOULDERS. I DONT KNOW WHAT I WOULD HAVE DONE WITH OUT ALL THE ADVICE! THANK YOU AGAIN!!! smile03.gif

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That's great news! A brunch the following day sounds like a fair resolution, and I'm sure your cousin will be so touched by his efforts hug2.gif Glad it all came together without any drama wink.gif

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