AHH! I really need to vent...(long)
Posted 13 January 2009 - 01:27 PM
I about had a melt down yesterday. I have been working with my wedding coordinator since October to book a videographer. I don't want to put blame on her, but just last week I finally got a link to a videographer that I had liked and we talked about a few months ago. She had been telling me that she will forward his work to me and then wouldn't. I am sure she was swamped. Either way, I decided to email him directly only to find out that he is booked! I couldn't believe it. Why wouldn't she tell me this? Why would she send me the link of a videographer, make me fall in love, and then he isn't even available? Well, we ended up talking on the phone last night and things kinda worked out. Apparently he has associates available to shoot the wedding and he will then edit the video. Should I do that? I am going to ask for a cheaper price, but I don't know....can you tell I am stressed?
My FI's dad called last night and told him (I over heard their conversation while they were on the phone) that I caused problems between him and his wife. We are paying for specific people and because I didn't include her son on the "to be paid" budget I apparently caused a huge fight. AHHHH! I can't make anyone happy.
Posted 13 January 2009 - 01:38 PM
about your FI mom,..she needs to chill. She needs to realize that money doesnt fall from the sky, and if it did then you'd love to pay for everyone. Why doesn't she pay for her son??
Posted 13 January 2009 - 01:55 PM
Posted 13 January 2009 - 02:08 PM
Don't melt down on me. People are going to complain, but remember it's not their day, it's yours. i know it's hard to ignore, but you will be worry free if you ignore the negativitiy.
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Posted 13 January 2009 - 02:18 PM
Posted 13 January 2009 - 03:45 PM
That sucks about your Fi's stepmom. But really it isn't your responsibility to pay for anyone. They should feel blessed that you are helping out at all. WTF dude?
Posted 13 January 2009 - 03:46 PM
As for your FMIL...tell her to bite it! LOL
Seriously though, you really can't please everyone all of the time. If this is causing a lot of conflict between FI & his family you can explain to her your reasoning for paying for some people. Although, I in no way think you are obligated to. People (even close family) have to realize that this is your wedding, not theirs, or their sons, or aunts, or friends' friend!! I know it's easier said than done, but sometimes you just have to ignore people that try to interfere...or out right tell them to bite it!!!
Posted 13 January 2009 - 03:57 PM
Posted 13 January 2009 - 04:19 PM
As for the family drama - I sympathize!! As others said, you can't make everyone happy and it's not your responsibility to pay for ANYONE, so this is particularly unfair. Good luck!!
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