Jamaica wedding blues
Posted 12 January 2009 - 01:08 PM
I started off with about 65 guests total coming to my wedding. Now, I think I'm down to about 20 who I know are definitely going (or at least that's what they keep saying), but deposits have yet to be paid from those "definite 20" and everyone staying staying on our resort (moondance villas) must be paid in full by March 1. The wedding is on June 20, 2009. The deposits exclude airfare. EEk!
My best friends, who are also my maids of honor (there are two of them) are now telling me that they don't know if they are going to be able to make it due to the economy. I gave them TWO YEARS TO SAVE FOR THE WEDDING! That's less than $50 a month that could have put the the side that they agreed to do happily in the beginning. They even encouraged me to have the wedding in Jamaica. They are the lucky ones who still have jobs, no large bills, no house in foreclosure, and no reason to scream about the economy since the economy's downturn has had little to no effect on their financial situation, and they had TWO YEARS to SAVE!
Everyone seems to be procrastinating about the wedding and so many try to convince us that we should have our wedding at home instead of Jamaica.
I knew that many people would not make it to our wedding because its in Jamaica, but there are so many that have disappointed us that we didn't expect and I am nervous that there will be very few people there.
Is anyone else experiencing these wedding woes?
Posted 12 January 2009 - 01:20 PM
Just remember that this day is about you two, and that is all that matters. People will regret not coming.
Posted 12 January 2009 - 01:22 PM
I booked my wedding/hotel/flights etc last February (coming from England so you have to book a package holiday). Since then, 9 people (out of 22 in total) who only paid a small deposit have pulled out due to the economy. Again, like you, they have had over a year to save money, but have left it till the last minute (last week) to pull out, therefore losing their deposit. So now we have a party of 13. Now when you have the bride and groom, 2 bridesmaids/grooms party at the front, it doesn't leave many to watch!!
At the end of the day the most important people are coming to my wedding (parents) and that for me is the main thing.
Posted 12 January 2009 - 01:24 PM
And keep in mind, this was BEFORE the economy tanked!
I had given my guests plenty of advanced notice, but once it came time to book thats when I really knew who was in & who was out!
Here are some other threads that I found where other BDW brides are experiencing the same things:
The one thing that I can tell you is please don't worry that you won't have a large group in JA.
You will get over it and on your wedding day, you won't be thinking of those who did not make it or about having a group of 10 as opposed to a group of 30.
All that you will be focused on is you & your FI and those family & friends who did travel with you! Those will be the memories that you treasure the most!
So hang in there!
Posted 12 January 2009 - 01:58 PM
The problem lies here: Say we only have 5 guests staying on the resort and say we end up with 10-15 people staying offsite (a strong possibility) we can only have 5 more guests come to wedding. That's moondance's policy. We told everyone that they need to stay on the resort to avoid this, but they somehow think its better/cheaper from them to stay off site. We broke it down for them and showed them that they would be spending the same amount of money or more staying at their other chosen places once they factor in food and transportation. Moondance resort is an ALL Inclusive place and you literally don't have to lift a finger once you arrive.
I don't know, thanks for your replies ladies. I'm going to stay positive. I know it will be a beautiful day. I guess the apprehension is normal!
Posted 12 January 2009 - 02:05 PM
I think all All Inclusives have some sort of similar rule. I know the RIU does. I think we have 1 guy staying off property and hes handicapped so he needs to stay at a timeshare. Otherwise, I told everyone that we need them to stay on property.
Posted 12 January 2009 - 02:27 PM
Posted 12 January 2009 - 02:32 PM
My best friend had the nerve to call me selfish too. Ugh! I'm like "You had 2 years to plan. You go shopping every weekend, you go out every weekend, but you couldn't save $50 a month for the wedding of your best friend that you were sooooo excited about, and you call me selfish"
To some extent I am a little selfish, but I thought weddings were about the bride and groom? If you can swing it, I don't see what the problem is....
Posted 12 January 2009 - 03:48 PM
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