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    Posted 12 January 2009 - 08:52 AM

    I am pretty sure I know how I feel about this and what I am going to do but I thought I would throw it out there and see what everyone's opinions are.

    My daughter turns one at the end of March (time flies!) and we are trying to plan her first birthday party. my brother-in-law is getting married here in miami at the beginning of March. So needless to say ALL of our family is flying in for his wedding at the beginning of March so nobody will be able to attend/fly back in for her birthday party if we have it at the end of March. Sooooo would it be complete poor taste to try to fit in a small birthday party for Avery the day before their wedding? I HATE to do that to them because i do not want to take away from their day AT ALL but if we don't have it during the wedding weekend then she will not have any family members at her 1st birthday party...................ugh I know I shouldn't do it during their wedding but i really want her grandparents, great-grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, etc to be with us to celebrate her 1st birthday.

    ok what do you think? what would you think as a bride? be honest please!
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    #2 becks



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      Posted 12 January 2009 - 09:13 AM

      Can you do it the day after the wedding? I think before the wedding would be inappropriate - especially the day before. But the day after is much more forgivable, especially if the bride & groom are leaving for their honeymoon that day.

      If the day after just won't work, talk with them about it. But be prepared to back off if your FSIL hedges at all. If it had been me, I would have been irked about something before, but totally fine with something the day after.

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      #3 ACDCDCAC

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      Posted 12 January 2009 - 09:49 AM

      i'm with rebecca. weird when youre the one on the other side, huh?

      the day after i wouldnt care about, if i were the bride. but maybe they need a stress reliever the day before. maybe the rehearsal dinner is a few days before. i say ask her and BIL and go from there.

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        Posted 12 January 2009 - 11:24 AM

        If I were the bride, I personally wouldn't care just because I'm such a sucker for kids and am really laid back about that stuff.... but from my experience on bridal boards, I'm pretty sure I'm more in the minority on that. I would definitely ask BIL and his fiance.

        If you could do it afterwards, it'd probably be better and less choatic for everyone though.

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          Posted 12 January 2009 - 11:41 AM

          I'll go with everyone else here & say talk to your FSIL (I'm sure the BIL could care less!). Make sure to let her know you TOTALLY understand if she says no. If you ask her, she may still feel like she has to say yes, but she may really not want you to. I don't think I could say no to someone's face. Or maybe have BIL ask her - she will be honest with him. I agree that the day after would probably be best if it's do-able.

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            Posted 12 January 2009 - 11:45 AM

            I would agree with the "day after" option.

            Do you know what the wedding weekend timeline is yet?

            As a recent bride, as much as I liked to say I was pretty 'laid back' ... I admit I probably would have been pissed if there was a b-day party the day before ... but now I think that would have been pretty childish of me and I wouldn't have made a big deal about it but probably would have pouted in the background, lol.

            Of course, a lot depends on your BIL and his FI's personalities and whether or not you are comfortable asking them.

            But before or after the wedding - I would definitely run it by them first.

            #7 lil_miss_frogg

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              Posted 12 January 2009 - 11:53 AM

              I don't think the day after would be a problem for us. Just meet them for dinner one night and explain how you feel....be sure to include you want grandparents to be there! Besides...it's not every day you see your grandbaby turns 1. I think they should have no problem with it. Be sure to keep us updated!
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              #8 NHPT

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                Posted 12 January 2009 - 03:14 PM

                they are getting married on a sunday so the day after the wedding everyone is leaving town pretty fast.........i know my BIL and FSIL will probably act like they dont care but i really really dont want to impose on their day but then i also selfishly want avery to have her family with her to celebrate her bday---------ugh there is no good answer! thanks for your opinions!
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                #9 happygilmore

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                  Posted 12 January 2009 - 03:30 PM

                  Are people coming in on Friday night? If so could you offer to throw a welcome party at your house where at the same time you celebrate your daughter's birthday? That way it isn't the day before and gives everyone coming in to town something to do if that night isn't already planned for!

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                  Posted 12 January 2009 - 03:32 PM

                  I agree with Abbie, maybe ask your brother-in-law and his soon to be wife, what they think. If it was me, I wouldn't care, but I would appreciate being asked

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