Why get married? Marriage vs. Common-law
Posted 30 December 2008 - 07:39 PM
Of course proving a common law marriage if you're in one is super difficult, as well as denying it if you're living together since 10 years, have kids and a common bank account !
I always looked at marriage with suspicion. I guess if I was living in France, with a French guy, I would probably not be there planning my first fitting... I do not need legal bounds to feel and be committed to a long-term relationship.
Anyway, for me marriage is a must if I want to stay in the States with my sweetheart. My visa can only be renewed once, for 2 years, and then nothing - it's on my company and therefore, is not convertible in a green card even if my company would sponsor me.
For my FI it's in his values - he wants to be married, start a family ; for him marriage means something more than just being together, he wants to take the vows, really. So I guess that's two good reasons.
The other thing is, if you're in a common law marriage no chance to make a pre-nup... the lawyer in me that speaks .
In France they have this concept now - the PACS - it's like a marriage but without being one, meaning that anybody can get pacsed, including gay couples or just roommates !! It organizes the common life but you don't have to go through divorce when you split up... I understand it when you're not a straight couple, but if you are, I always thought it was strange going through PACS, it's like : let's do something together, but keep the door opened, just in case. I think I would just live with my guy - or get married. But it's an interesting tool !
Posted 30 December 2008 - 07:43 PM
| Originally Posted by IslamoradaBride |
Georgia doesn't recognize common-law either, so we definitely have to make it legal. I've always wanted a big party anyhow!
Posted 30 December 2008 - 09:19 PM
Posted 02 January 2009 - 10:57 AM
| Originally Posted by BeautifulBridetoBe |
In Ontario, to be legally recognized you must cohabit in a conjugal relationship for 1 year.
Posted 02 January 2009 - 11:15 AM
Posted 03 January 2009 - 11:32 AM
I originally asked the question because a recent discussion with colleagues centered around this topic. Those recently married who had cohabited with their partners prior to getting married in Ontario said there was no real difference. As our law recognizes common-law after one year, I wondered why they got married...if there is no real difference. I believe the answer is because somewhere in it all, there is a difference and it mattered to one party or both or their families. For me, the difference is spiritual. I understand that not everyone shares this view of the difference....but there is a difference.
From reading our comments, most of us seem to agree that marriage somehow differs from common-law...in a way that has nothing to do with legalities...but level of commitment.
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Posted 03 January 2009 - 12:34 PM
Having said that you also get their bloody debt, thats the lawyer in me lol
I've lived with FI for 5 years and the only reason why we are getting married is because he is going somewhere hot with a high chance he'll get blown up and from a security point of view it makes sense as I will then get his pension and insurance and not his bloody mother who he hasn't lived with since he was 16.
For me its not spiritual its practical. Having said that I can be a cold hearted cow but that comes with my job and marrying a squaddie lmao
Married or not I'd still feel the same way about him
Posted 03 January 2009 - 01:27 PM
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