We're just not getting along right now- Is this bad? (Long)
Posted 18 November 2008 - 08:44 PM
Remember to say "Thank you", "I appreciate you" ,"good morning" and the most importnat- "good night" every day.
It seems contradictory, but thankfulness puts your mind in perspective when you have negative emotions, especially when you're angry. You don't have to mean it, but say it to yourself anyway. Thank anything you can think of- thank that you're married, thank that you're breathing, thank that you have a job (many people don't righ now) My relationship became so much better after doing this.
Posted 18 November 2008 - 09:19 PM
My FI an I have lived together for 2 years now and were together for 6 years before that, so imagine my surprise when we fought for the first 2 months that we lived together. It was TERRIBLE!
It took us a good 2-6 months to adjust to living in the same house, you have to make a lot of compromises and make sure to communicate what is bothering you both..hang in there..it will get better...give it some time
Posted 18 November 2008 - 09:50 PM
I thought that being together for the last 10 years meant that I totally knew him & his habits but ofcourse I find that I didn't & I've learned some new things about him along the way!
And I totally hear ya about the redecorating. I used to want to strangle him when I would go look for something & realize he didn't have it. Like a whisk, or a plunger, or an ice cream scooper. I'd be like who the heck doesn't have a whisk Then I'd have to remind myself that there were lots of things he wouldnt have cuz he never needed them!! Talk about tough!!
Everytime I want to run outta the house & never come back, I remind myself that I probably get on his nerves just as much as he gets on mine! Then I laugh & just try to get over it! (emphasis on "try").
Anyway, you'll be fine. As the other ladies have said compromise & communication are key and you really have to pick your battles.
Posted 18 November 2008 - 09:57 PM
So even though my situation is different, just want to let you know you're not alone. Sometimes I'm sad we never got our "newlywed/honeymoon" period because I hear other people say they did have that (they were in a different situation that us though, i.e. not dating as long or not living together)
Posted 19 November 2008 - 08:27 PM
But, that's it! Thanks everyone for your input! I'm sure the hubby and l will be pissing each other off plenty of other times in the near future, but at least now I know it's normal and part of the whole "moving-in-together" phase!
Posted 19 November 2008 - 08:39 PM
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