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#1 ErinB


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    Posted 13 November 2008 - 12:32 PM

    I've got a big problem with my pictures. The ones that I have are really good, it's the ones that are missing that I am having a HUGE problem with.

    The back story:
    I have a close friend who is a professional photographer. Some of her work is absolutely amazing! She had never done a DW before, so we made an agreement with a signed contract, that she would shoot my E-pics, DW, and AHR all for only the cost of travel. (approx $2000) It also really helped that she was able to room with my mom so neither one had to pay for a single room ($3775 per room).

    Most of my pictures I really like. However, in the midst of all the wedding day hustle, we have ZERO, NON, NADA posed pictures of the BRIDE and GROOM! There are some candid shots of the two of us and things like the toast and cutting the cake, but that's it. We were going to do some TTD pics the next day together, but I sliced my foot open that morning and I couldn't walk in the sand or go in the water. (I did a TTD alone prior to the wedding in my TTD dress)

    It makes me so sad when I see other people's fantastic photos of the B&G together. I know that we will never have the opportunity to take those photos again. I really wanted something to pass along to our children.

    She was delayed in getting to the AHR, so we didn't have the opportunity to take pictures together there either. I think it threw her off her game, because my AHR pictures are less than the best, part of the reason why I haven't posted them.

    I get teary just thinking about the fact that these moments are gone and I certainly can't afford to re-create them! I haven't even sent out Thank-Yous yet, because I had planned to do photocards and now I have nothing to work with. *I'm going to get plain ones this weekend and just deal. I know they need to go out!

    I haven't started on our photobooks, because I'm so upset. I've asked all of the family to please send me all of their pictures, so hopefully I can piece something together.

    So, what do I do? Accept and move on? Hire another photo and get all dressed up and take photos somewhere else locally? DH hates having his picture taken, so I don't know that he will go for this. And, it's not the beach setting so the pictures won't really go with everything else we have.

    I'm confused and pouty. Part of me is really angry that I didn't go ahead and write out a specific photo list, but we discussed photos that I wanted before and I feel that being a professional photographer who has done many, many weddings, she should know to get pics of B&G together!

    #2 Alyssa

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      Posted 13 November 2008 - 12:41 PM


      that sucks i am sorry that wound up happening. i would piece through what you have and your guests photos and make the best of it. also - maybe one of your guests have a good pic of you and Mike? the other thing is DH and i don't really have any 'posed' photos - actually there is not one of photo of us with my veil on alone in all 1800 - there are some of us during the ceremony with the veil but with other people and things in the pics - i was upset about this at first but it was my fault b/c i literally yanked the veil off like 10 min after the ceremony.

      anyway - sorry for the ramble - do you have a couple you could post here so we can help you?

      #3 Ana


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      Posted 13 November 2008 - 01:03 PM

      aww I'm sorry I agree with Alyssa though on what you should do. It will be ok in the end.

      #4 leahstafford

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        Posted 13 November 2008 - 01:07 PM

        Erin, I can relate to you 100%. I don't have any posed shots of Eric and I together but only candids. Looking at your images you can still definitely make a great album and thank you card with what you have. I love the one where he is kissing you on the cheek right after you were married. Hopefully some of your guest have some and you can have those too but I think from the link you have, you have great pictures to work with!

        #5 adias.angel

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          Posted 13 November 2008 - 03:04 PM

          Oh Erin!!

          If you are this upset about it, get all dolled up again and have another photographer do some candid ones. I don't think its a bad idea at all. My FI and I are honeymooning in Europe months after our wedding but we plan to have some shots done while we are there. Don't worry it will all work out. Carla

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            Posted 13 November 2008 - 04:29 PM

            I am so sorry!!! =(

            I agree with everyone else combined.

            Piece through the photo's from friends and see if there is anything there that you like. IMHO, candid wedding photo's are always the best ones with the most real smiles and emotions. I haven't seen your photo's but there must be something there that represents your love for eachother....

            If not, then get all dolled up again (every bride wants to wear their dress again) and get some posed shots taken at a beautiful locale close to home.

            btw, looking through your photo's now!!! he he!

            #7 Kathie

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              Posted 13 November 2008 - 04:34 PM

              I would absolutely get dressed up again and have another photographer do a shoot of just the two of you.

              #8 rodent


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                Posted 13 November 2008 - 04:38 PM

                Are there candids that you really like?

                I'm really surprised that with two opportunities she didn't get a bride & groom pic. I could understand if she was not a pro, which is why I think people should always hire a pro. She may have been out of her element with her first DW, but I am still surprised she missed something so huge.

                I think everyone has a few pictures they wish they would have done. There are so many things to capture on the wedding day that its normal to look back & say, "oh we forgot to do blank." kind of like alyssa & the veil comment. But, the bride & groom pics are a wedding day standard.

                can you show us what you do have in candids?

                I personally wouldn't want to restage. those pictures wouldn't mean anything to me. well, i could see doing a TTD afterwards.

                #9 rach220

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                  Posted 13 November 2008 - 04:55 PM

                  I'm so sorry this happened to you...I would wait and see what you get from your guests...maybe they happened to get a good shot of the two of you...
                  Honestly, I like candids better than posed shots...post a few and we will let you know what we think...maybe you're being too critical and you really have a great one!

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                  #10 ErinB


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                    Posted 13 November 2008 - 10:19 PM

                    Thanks girls. I think I'll probably just stick with what I've got. I don't really have any to post that aren't already here *see link in my siggy

                    As I said, I do like our photos and some are really good, it's just the ones that are missing. We seriously have no photos together that don't have someone else in them and none that are full length. We're toasting or eating or caking or something! I think we only have 2 of the entire bridal party.

                    We did get some good pictures through out the week and about 4 on the beach one night when we attempted the TTD, but nothing from our wedding day in our wedding clothes. We had to stop because it was dark and my foot felt like it would fall off.

                    At our AHR, she didn't get a picture of our first dance! I've e-mailed her and asked her for all of the remaining photos, un-touched, even if they are bad, just so I can see them and maybe do something.

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