Posted 13 November 2008 - 03:38 PM
Good luck & we all feel your frustration!
Posted 13 November 2008 - 04:30 PM
Posted 19 November 2008 - 03:16 AM
Posted 19 November 2008 - 01:52 PM
| Originally Posted by lizzie287 |
Thanks for your input ladies, I'm shocked at how quick I got responses!
There was a question as to whether it would make me feel better to confront him about it .. honestly, no. I've confronted him about several things over the years, all of which involved his wife coming before me, and I've never won the argument. So really, at this point, I'm thinking this takes the cake and I think I'm finally ready to admit to myself what I've known all along - my father never wanted kids and just did what he felt forced to do. Now that I'm an adult, he feels his role as Dad has been completed. I really noticed this once I finished school - he paid my tuition and gave me grief over it constantly for the full 4 years. Once I was done, the emails stopped and all of a sudden it takes a month to get a very quick reply. It feels terrible knowing that anything is more important than his daughter, and frankly I feel like he's being very selfish. If he didn't want kids, he should have said so BEFORE he and my mom divorced, so now I feel like he made his bed, he can lay in it, he's just not man enough to do it.
The biggest thing that goes through my head is thank Christ my daughter has a great father, and I'm so glad the old adage that women look for husbands like their father is the furthest from the truth in my case.
To all of you ladies in similar situations, I feel for you as well and hope everything works out in your cases. For me, I know no amount of crying will bring my father to my wedding.
We just have to keep in mind that we have no control over our father's actions. We just have to worry about today & the life that God has put in front of us. It is up to us to break the cycle!!!!- And it sounds like you are doing that with your daughter!!!!
Keep your head up & remember you are getting married to the love of your life & nobody can take that away from you!
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