Bridesmaid Vent - EEERRHHH!!!!!
Posted 27 March 2007 - 10:49 AM
As of this past December I knew she had no money saved, but said she was still going. She left the beginning of January for 12 week French program in France. I know she was considering it but she just left without letting me know. I sent her an email asking when she would be back and I didnâ€™t get a response. My only correspondence with her was group emails to all our friends. I had the dresses picked out before she left and ordered them in January and got a size too big for her so she could get it taken in (b/c I didnâ€™t have her measurements). But when she left she still didnâ€™t have her trip booked. So she calls yesterday all pissed off because she had to pay more then she thought, the special rate airfare was sold out so she had to pay more for airfare and book her hotel separate. In all it will end up costing her approx. $800 more. So she callsâ€¦â€Well, what am I going to do? Can I stay in the hotel the first night with you guys (Hello, itâ€™s my wedding!!!)? How am I getting from the airport, I canâ€™t afford a cab by myself itâ€™s like $80!! So what do I do?â€ It was almost like she was waiting for me to say Iâ€™ll pay for it. Then she asked about the dresses, â€œWhat are we doing for dresses, what are we wearing?â€ So when I told her I have her but sheâ€™ll have to get it taken she replyâ€™s â€œI donâ€™t get back until April 8th, how much is this going to cost? Whoâ€™s going to do it? Are you going to make the arrangements for me? Etcâ€¦. My other bridesmaids have their dresses altered already.
Iâ€™m pisssed!!!! I never heard from her all winter, last week I didnâ€™t even know if she was even going!!! Now sheâ€™s all snotty over the price, her dress etc. The reason she has to pay more is her own fault and sheâ€™s making me feel bad and that I should do something about it. I have enough to do besides get her straightened out. The other bridesmaids are ticked because she hasnâ€™t been involved in helping at all and never bothered to get in touch with them. Iâ€™m afraid of confronting her because I donâ€™t want to make the week uncomfortable for everyone. AAAHHHH!!!!! Okay I feel a little better now, I needed a good vent.
Posted 27 March 2007 - 10:53 AM
I really wish people would start to think of someone other then themselves once in awhile.
Posted 27 March 2007 - 10:55 AM
Posted 27 March 2007 - 11:01 AM
Proud Mama to Evelyn Eileen since June 8, 2010
Posted 27 March 2007 - 11:29 AM
It will make her look like the ass she's being....
Posted 27 March 2007 - 11:34 AM
Posted 27 March 2007 - 11:42 AM
|..."Ask not what the bride can do for you, but what you can do for your bride!"|
Honestly though...what a pain! If nothing else, refer her to your TA or another BM/MOH for questions like that. She should not be harassing you about this crap...that's why you have a wedding party...so they can do this stuff for you! :-)
Posted 27 March 2007 - 11:55 AM
When airfare dropped, I told all of my friends to hurry and book. She lolly-gagged and of course missed the good price. Finally we had a blow out 3 months before the wedding because she finally realized that it was just around the corner and she hadn't saved a dime. She complained that it was costing so much money and that I should have budgeted to pay for more for the bridesmaids. And thatI should at least pay for the dresses! She also proceeded to get upset that I didn;t even ask her if she liked the bridesmaid dress before I picked it out! Then, the finale was when she asked that if she wasn't able to go to Mexico, would I still have had the wedidng in Cabo?? I laughed and screamed YES! Then she was so upset, she hung up on me. Finally during the "make up phase" she apologized and said she understood and that some people (like me) are just more materialistic than others when it comes to these things. That the convenience of the guest would be more important to her, and the location is more importtant to me. Yes, my mouth dropped. I was like THIS is your apology!
Sorry for the major highjack but the moral here is that usually every bride has one. Either a family member or a bridesmaid that thinks that this wedding is about them. You have to ignore these people & try not to let it get you down. Focus on the people that are really happy for you. As far as her role in the wedding, I personally would give her an "out". I wished my BM had just backed out, because it was no secret how she felt about the inconveience I was putting on her and there is still bitterness to this day. More incidents happened after, but I won't bore you.
Posted 27 March 2007 - 12:39 PM
You really need to tell you BM that she doesn't have to go and that you will be okay with her not there. You seriously don't need that stress.
Posted 27 March 2007 - 06:00 PM
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