Bridesmaid Vent - EEERRHHH!!!!!

[Cabo Wedding Coordinator]

I think she is very selfish, it´s your wedding! you should be worrying about other things, not of what she will think, after all it´s her fault, you had her informed about booking and also about the dress! maybe you should just get another brides maid, one that really cares for you.

[Nrvsbride]

At this very moment I feel like very single girl I know is getting married and so every other phone call I get sounds like your vent. People are selfish!!! They want to bitch about how much a wedding is going to cost them but when its their turn they have no problems picking $756 food processers for their registry, expecting their bridesmaids to wear heinous $1,000 gowns, having people pay $500 for a bachelorette party, and then expecting you to cough up wads of cash for their wedding gift. I am so sick of selfish people. They, along with your BM need to get over themselves. I am so sorry that you are dealing with this right now. She is rude and inconsiderate and I know its so easy to tell you to blow her off, but she is your friend so it is just so frustrating. Unfortunately I would just try to keep things civil but I would not offer to pay for anything. It's her problem that she didn't book on time.

 

-Glenda

[-Kate-]

How selfish!

 

I think you should take this approach next time she starts bitching. Ask her - When did I tell you the rate? And when did I tell you the rate expired? And how many times did I ask you if you were booked? And how many times did you respond? And what date did you book? etc. Make her tell you all the answers. MAke her tell you she f.d up and it's her own fault.

 

Can you tell I'm a prosecutor?

[SPRINGBRIDE]

I had a talk with her several time about the expense of coming to my wedding and that I understood if she couldn't make it and that , but she could still be a special part of the shower, AHR, bachelorette party etc. She kept saying it wasn't a problem and she'd be there. Until it came time to pay!!!! WTF? Anyway, she's booked. My other two bridesmaids (who are God sent!!) are dealing with her on all outstanding details, they don't want me under any more stress than I have to. It's too bad that in those very special, important times in your life some friends true colors shine through.

 

Hopefully she won't bring it up anymore, if she does I think I'll take all the advice and point out it's her fault it's costing so much. The more people I talk to the more I realize I'm not alone on this one and there are many selfish people out there!!!!!!!

[*JillD*]

I'd tell her I didn't want her in the wedding. She's not a very good friend if she's putting this all on you and stressing you out before your wedding, you have enough to worry about.

[Cabo Wedding Coordinator]

WOW!!! you are good!!! jajja!!

 

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Originally Posted by LALA How selfish!   I think you should take this approach next time she starts bitching. Ask her - When did I tell you the rate? And when did I tell you the rate expired? And how many times did I ask you if you were booked? And how many times did you respond? And what date did you book? etc. Make her tell you all the answers. MAke her tell you she f.d up and it's her own fault.   Can you tell I'm a prosecutor?

[~Melissa~]

. It's too bad that in those very special, important times in your life some friends true colors shine through.

 

 

DITTO! One of my close friends/ BM backed out on me too. True colors def shine through with some people and it's very sad and disapointing.

 

Glad it looks like it's all going to work out for you

[starchild]

I'm so sorry and I can so relate to this. One of my bm's who I asked because I've known her for many years has been lagging on everything. She's in grad. school and has little money, I knew that when I asked her so suggested she think about it before she said yes. She said yes and plans proceeded. To make a long story short, she stops responding to group bm emails about hotel/dress stuff.

 

I get a text - yes, on my phone! - from her saying she won't have the dress money until about 6 weeks before the wedding, can only afford 2 nights hotel and that's if she can share a room with someone, and she won't have that money for awhile either. I left her a voicemail giving her numbers of other singles who wanted to share a room. No response. I finally email her and say I want you to be in this, but I have programs to print and I'm not printing your name on it if you aren't going to be there. You aren't standing up there without the proper dress. If you can't swing it I will not be mad if you tell me now because I can still replace you, but if you tell me next month I will be stuck and I don't know how I'll deal with you after that.

 

She called me, apologized for causing me extra stress, and put everything on a credit card. At least that's what she said . . . you'll all hear about it if she doesn't come through like she promised! I see why people elope . . . .