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Do the tips of your shoes show when you're standing in your dress?

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#1 Samantha S

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    Posted 18 October 2008 - 02:27 PM

    Hi Ladies,

    I wanted to know just that-- when you are standing (not walking), do the tips of your feet/shoes show in your gown? Is that standard/normal? I just picked up my dress from being altered and that is the one thing I was very specific about- I didn't want my shoes to really show when I was standing because I am wearing fuchsia shoes and I wanted them to be more subtle and not 'all you see.' My alterations lady asked me that when we were doing my fitting and I said 'NO' and she lowered the hem.

    Well, I tried it on and it fits amazing except, BAM-- there are my fuchsia shoes! The ladies in the bridal shop were all standing around oohing and ahhing and I didn't say anything at that point-- I had to let it digest and think about whether I hated it or not. It cost $300 bucks to simply bring the dress in the waist and hem it. I called her after I left and let her know that it was something I specifically asked for and I am dissapointed. She said we probably can't lower the hem because there is not enough hem there but that she could make new straps that are longer. So the trade off for that is that my boobs are hanging out more than they already do!! It's such a bummer, its a lose-lose situation. I DO NOT want my bust hanging out more-- it already shows more than enough cleavage. We can't hem on an extra piece of fabric on the end because you'll be able to see that through the lace and it will look terrible. I'm taking it in Wednesday but I'm pretty sure I'm just going to have to live with it. Any ideas, thoughts, inspiration? I'm so bummed out.

    p.s.-- functionally-- should the inner hem be a bit shorter than the outer lace hem so that I can walk? She said that's why it is shorter but when we did the fitting, I told her I didn't want the tips of my shoes showing and she said okay and lowered it just to the floor. She didn't say anything about that then....

    #2 Kat81

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      Posted 18 October 2008 - 08:56 PM

      My shoes did not show when I was just standing

      #3 DLyteful

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        Posted 18 October 2008 - 09:02 PM

        ummmmmm, This is a hard one. My shoes did not show, but you specifically told the seamstress what you wanted. Thats y u paid her $300, to do it right. With that being said you are probably right about her not being able to do much to fix it at this point. Maybe she can give you some type of money back. AND i bet your shoes are super cute and everything will look perfect together anyway.

        #4 Samantha S

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          Posted 18 October 2008 - 10:54 PM

          Well, thank you two for your input. I looked at a bunch of photos on the web and none of them show the shoes when you're standing-- I wouldn't have wanted that with or without the fuchsia shoes. Truly bummed about this, she really screwed my dress up. I'll deal with it, get over it and be happy about it but today I'm letting myself sulk. I went to her and spent that money because she's supposed to be really good. I'll let you know if anything changes when I take it in on Wednesday.

          #5 JBinjour

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            Posted 18 October 2008 - 11:03 PM

            My shoes did not show under my wedding dress. I actually paid for them to make my dress extra long. I am 5'6" with heels I am 5'9"ish. So, I am not really tall, but with shoes I am. I also have long legs. I wanted to make sure that that dress covered my shoes. I paid for extra money for a certain service. I expected my dress to be the way that I wanted like you. If it wasn't I wouldn't have paid her or withheld a portion of her fee. Since, the seamstress did not fulfill her obiligation, she must compensate you i.e., refund a portion of the payment. If she hassles you, you can alway threaten ligitation. You can always dispute the charge on your credit card.
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            #6 kevsgirl

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              Posted 18 October 2008 - 11:20 PM

              That totally sucks. I'd be sulking too.
              Typically they don't show when you're standing. That's pretty standard. So it's like she screwed up. But she should know and admit to that.

              When it comes down to it though, if you can get your mind around it and start loving it, and walk down that isle like you planned to have them show, it'll be stunning, I'm sure!

              Good luck. $300 is a lot. IMHO she should give you abit of a refund or something to offset her mistake.

              I guess another option: you could wear ivory shoes for the ceremony or barefoot? if you're in the sand? And then put the fuschia shoes on for the reception

              #7 Kat81

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                Posted 19 October 2008 - 12:01 PM

                I think she should give you money back too! And maybe you can find another cute pair of shoes that have a smaller heel No matter what you will look amazing!

                #8 JUSTUSTWO


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                  Posted 19 October 2008 - 05:45 PM

                  My shoes did not show when I was standing either. When you tried on your dress before the alterations were done, did you have the shoes on? Usually, they make you bring your shoes that you're actuallly wearing to the fitting so that the measurements are accurate.
                  Even if you didnt have the actual shoes, she should have known better to make the measurements the way you wanted.
                  But what if you get a new pair of shoes with a lower heel? If your shoes are showing now, I'm thinking that if you get a new pair of shoes with a lower heel, your dress will be longer & cover the shoes? KWIM?
                  Now I'm sure you have the shoes that you love already, but maybe getting another pair in the same color, will solve the problem.
                  Or, if you don't want to get another pair of shoes, can you take the shoes you already have & get the heel cut an inch or so? I never knew they could do that until one of my friends had it done. Just a suggestion!
                  As a matter of fact, maybe you'd be "safer" getting a new pair of shoes instead of trying to get the heel cut on the ones that you already have. The last thing you need is for someone else to mess your shoes up & to be stressed out about 2 people's mistake!

                  #9 Samantha S

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                    Posted 23 October 2008 - 10:13 PM

                    Ahh, ladies-- thank you for making me feel better! I did have the shoes I'm wearing on my wedding day on and when she pinned the hem, it was to the floor. She said that when you take in the sides a lot it can sometimes bring the hem up. Well, that's great and it should be accounted for then.

                    I took my dress in Wednesday and she thinks she can bring it down a tad and I think it will be just enough to ease my dissapointment. Probably won't be perfect but better. She was very nice and apologetic and of course isn't charging me to fix it. I pick it up next Friday and hope to have a floor length dress!!! Thanks again!!!

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