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You can do this but you need to make sure mom and friend get the original invite.

Frist off, how many invites are we talking? Since it's just a shower, I honestly don't think it would be a huge deal. You don't want to insult anyone, especially since she probably feels like she did a really good thing for you.

Your BP will know you hate them and most people should recognize they weren't your taste. At the shower, you stand up and offer a toast or whatever to your guests to thank them for coming and a special thank you to mom's friend for making the invites as her gift to you. This should clarify the situation.

I had a shower and the invites and decor weren't what I would have done, but I know the hostess worked really hard and I wouldn't dream of hurting her feelings by telling her so. She is really sensitive and this would not have gone over well.
I agree with Erin. Just let it go. Everyone knows that the bride has really nothing to do with the shower and if she did, well that's just tacky and rude. Honestly, I don't think it's a reflection of YOU or your taste but rather the hostess.

Just be gratiful she's throwing you a shower and give a toast of thanks. That will clear everything up and make those who may be stupid enough to think you made the invites know the real truth.

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Your best approach is sending those out only to the creator and mom. If you use the coffee excuse she will still have hurt feelings that you were not more careful with something she worked so "hard" on....

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i didnt read anyone else's responses but here is what i would do:

 

only send the ugly invites she made to your mom's circle of friends or to anyone whose home she might visit and see the invite. print up new ones for your own friends and send those out to them. then you can all privately laugh about the ugly ones later.

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I do have a dog and seriously considered making him pee in a cup so that i could spill it on the invites, but unfortunately he's housebroken and refuses to chew anything, so that wouldn't work either.

 

ErinB - That's a good idea, i might actually consider this.

 

LC_Rachel - i know that this probably shouldn't matter and people should figure out that their not my taste, the only problem is that "mom's friend" is not hosting the shower and really has not other part in the preperations, my mom and BP are. I feel like people will think they did the invites for me....and if i do thank her I'll have to sound sincere and that might make people think that i was okay with invites, when in reality i just want to point out that i had nothing to do with them.

 

I know i should be grateful, but when you see these things, you'll totally understand.

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I want to see them! If they are really that bad I like the suggestion on spilling something on them and sending out new ones. Just let her know your bridal party offered to make up new ones since she already put so much effort into the first batch that got ruined so she doesn't offer to remake them Then you'll be back where you started.

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I need to see a pic before I make a decision, but I like what Erin wrote. It's hard to take a step back sometimes, but the fact remains that she thought she was doing a nice thing for you and put alot of effort into it. The tearing the edges with a ruler - that's a scrapbooking thing. So I am sure she didn't even think that you would react that way. I make cards often and I almost always tear an edge somewhere. Having said all that, I was kind of a control freak during the planning of my wedding and it was hard to let go of some things. So I totally understand if you can't leave them be.

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This sounds so freaking evil... but spill coffee on them... then order new ones, and say you couldn't send them because they were all stained... or red wine... OMG... this is so evil, but it may work! <last resort lol

I don't think you sound ungrateful at all - i can't wait to see a pic!!!
i really like this idea of spilling coffee/wine on them - i wouldn't bother sending one to her anyway - just say you were devasted when they got ruined and the Bridal Party took over so you didn't have to deal with it/

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