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This sounds like an awful situation your caught in. I personally don't think you should invite people to a shower that aren't invited to the wedding. Could your fi step in and talk to her?

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I didnt read entire thread but-- i think you should talk to you fsil or any bm's if you are having any. bring out bridzilla if u have too! and i def think just people who are invited to wedding go to shower, dd she sendi nvites out?

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No, invites have not gone out yet, I dont think. However, i have a feeling that she has been on the phone with her big mouth calling everyone and their mother to let them know.

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My Mom told me that it is bad luck for the mothers to throw showers...don't know if that is really true, but you could use that.

 

I agree about inviting people who aren't coming to the wedding...I would feel really awkward about that too.

 

So sorry they are stressing you out...good luck!

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Oh my, that is not a great situation. I think something has to be said and it sounds like it needs to be said to FMIL. Does your FMIL have a tendancy to take over and maybe your FSIL isn't able to stand up to her? I think maybe you should have a nice chat with FMIL like what lhsing said, and then maybe get your Mom to give her a call after that to say she hear that she was planning the shower and she would like to help since you are her daughter. Maybe she will be willing to share the duties of planning.

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Yeah, my MOH is doing the shower... but you need to speak up, do it politely, but it is your day. Not fair to have everything taken over. And I also agree, why would you invite people who weren't invited to the wedding?! It seem so odd! Be calm and cool, but state what it is that you want.

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Ok, this kind of happened to me already. I kept telling Fi he needed to talk to his mom and sister. That didn't work. They invited their friends and family but didn't invite any of mine. Not even BM's. WTF! So my mom and BM's are having their own. I just rolled with it. trying not to stir up too much water so close to the wedding. If I had gone into bridezilla mode. trust me I wonuldn't have stopped. And killed them all.

 

So I really feel your pain. Sorry. This sucks!

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I'd say thanks but shove your shower right where the sun doesn't shine - its about ME not YOU so its not what I want bugger off like it or lump it

 

Then speak to your BM's and get them to do it

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Sorry for a bit of a hijack, but Harty, there are members that are looking for you. There is thread started wondering where you are!!!

 

Ok hijack over!

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Sorry for a bit of a hijack, but Harty, there are members that are looking for you. There is thread started wondering where you are!!!

Ok hijack over!
I saw it lol I've replied lolsmile03.gif

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