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[meagan]

This is tricky! I was kind of confused like you although it was a totally different situation. I was worried about making the legal day feel too "real" and I didnt want it to take away from the wedding in Mexico. I am doing the legal stuff quick and painless, just signing papers and no celebration. I want Mexico to feel and be like the real deal wedding. But that is just my opinion! You have to do what feels right for you! Because of your godfather, I see where you are confused. HMMMM......

I think for once you need to put what YOU want first! Years down the road you dont want any regrets about your wedding. Its the most exciting time in our lives! You want to be able to tell your kids or grandkids your wedding story and have a happy face on! I know its hard, but I just think its time to put you first! Good luck!

[JoLo908]

We are doing this as well to make things easier and not have to make the trip longer before hand...

[KirstenRN6]

My FI and I will be getting married leagally here in the states before we go to Mexico in December as well. This has been a really hard decision for us to make too. We have gone back and forth about it a million times it seems. But now we have set the date for August 29th! We will be doing a small ceremony in the mountains of Montana near my home town with my parents and his parents. An amazing pastor whom I have know for many years will be doing the ceremony for us. Our biggest hang up was that we didn't want our legal day to just be cut and dry. We are both Christians and felt that it was very important for us to have God be part of the most important commitment we will ever be making. I am going to wear a cute white sundress with white flip flops and David will wear his tan linen pants and a white linen shirt. I'll probably go get my hair done for fun too! I think it will work out just fine! I like that Maura said it took so much stress off of her once the legal part was done. I'm hoping to same for me too!

[EmenGeeRoxx]

Any difference doing the legal/civil wedding before or after the symbolic/religious ceremony? I think this is a good idea.

[Maura]

trust me, do the civil ceremony first.

once your DW is over, you will want to be totally done with wedding crap!

[EmenGeeRoxx]

lol @ wedding crap! Thanks Maura, will take that into consideration.

[sstotz]

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Originally Posted by Maura oh i wanted to revisit this thread to say for anyone who is on the fence about whether or not to get legally married in the states first - i'm telling you firsthand, do it! i am SO glad we did. it got rid of all my nerves and anxiety about the big wedding. now i am so chill (well, chill for a type A, anal retentive person haha) compared to a few weeks ago. i have let a lot of stuff go and recognized there are a lot of things that 1) my guests wont care about or 2) the guests wont notice if something is not there, etc etc. i am so much less stressed about the DW than i was before we were legally married, because those things seem so trivial to me now.

Thats exactly what I was thinking!! I just want it to be a FUN and WONDERFUL experience without the stress of cold feet or anything ..haha.

We are going to treat it like we aren't married yet while we are down there though.. having a brides party villa and a grooms party villa the whole week.. it'll be fun to be with the girls getting ready and partying during the week, and secretly already be married..lol

[Erika J]

This may be a silly question, But ,y grandparents are in Chicago and they will not be able to travel to the DW. Is it just as easy to do the legal cermony in Illinois even though I live in Colorado?

~Erika

[JGAMMAGIRL77]

I'm planning on also getting married in the states before we get to Cabos but I'm not sure how that affects our religious ceremony. Does anyone know if we have to present a wedding certificate in Cabos?