Invited to shower but not wedding...

[LisaG]

I would agree with the other girls and maybe go together with the other ladies in your office. I would say $30-$40 tops too.

[Celina]

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Originally Posted by Taradactyle I got invited to a co-worker's bridal shower at work (all the women were invited) but wasn't invited to her wedding. How much or how big of a gift is appropriate? I really don't mind giving her a gift because she's really nice and always helpful, but I just don't want her to feel obligated to get me anything for my wedding... What to do? Also, is it ok to have a shower and invite people not invited to the wedding?

First, I personally don't think it's appropriate to invite people to your wedding shower if they aren't invited to the wedding. Whoever is doing the inviting should know better. It sounds like they are asking for gifts.

I would do something at work for her if you and your co workers feel inclined to do so.

Sorry if I'm not any help!

[nikkianddean]

Tara, if the shower is at work, then I don;t think it's odd. We generally do an "office gift" and invite the fiance in for cake in our office. Everyone usually chips in $20-$30 and gets one nice thing from their registry.

[Leia78]

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Originally Posted by nikkianddean Tara, if the shower is at work, then I don;t think it's odd. We generally do an "office gift" and invite the fiance in for cake in our office. Everyone usually chips in $20-$30 and gets one nice thing from their registry.

Hi Tara,

I agree with Nikki. Since it's at work, I don't think it's weird at all. I mean, who can or really wants to invite all their co-workers?!? We usually chip in and get a gift from their registry.

[Yari]

At first I was like WTF so tacky...but since it is a work shower then it's different. I say spend no more than $30.

[jajajaja]

I agree with nearly all the girls. Work showers are different IMO. Normal showers are usually thrown by someone close to the bride and they ask her for a list of people. Work showers are just generally one co-worker piping up to the rest of the people that it would be fun to do something, then everyone chips in. The bride really can't help that so it's not like she is looking for gifts- know what I mean?

 

I would just get her something small- it's the thought that counts.

[petunia]

I teach in a school with more than 100 staff members, 85% of whom are women and 75% of those are marrying and babying age. Each year lately there have been at least three baby showers and at least three wedding showers. Just as is done in Lauren's school, we pass around envelopes and everyone throws in $5-$10. Then gifts are bought by each grade level and special area. We all chip in with either breakfast or lunch snacks. We know we're not invited, but it's our way to help our colleague and friend celebrate this special time in her life. We even hold these for the Grooms and new daddies. It's fun.