Originally Posted by Mahalo79
I just wanted to check in and vent a little bit, I am very stressed! So long story short, our final payments are due today, which is fine and I have known is coming for a looonng time! Unfortunatley, FI's parents are apparantly super financially irrespsonsible and don't have their money ready to pay ON TIME!! So know I am supposed to do what? FI wants me to call the TA and just tell him to extend the deadline as they can't pay right now. I have just exactly enough to pay for myself and FI trip on my card or I would put their trip on. FI doesn't have a credit card either (the apple doesn't fall far from the tree?! ) I am so irritated and I don't know what to do. I can't help it his family is completley irresponsible and can't get thier *&^$ together. Anyways, I don't know what to do or what TA will say, but I guess I can only ask. I can pay a part of thier trip, the deposit has already been paid. So thanks for letting me vent a little, I am very upset. Also already I have more family coming than him, he only has his parents and one sister coming, so he is very upset too that they are not getting it together. I have to phone FMIL today, please give me the wisdom to be very calm and polite while speaking to her, cause I feel like saying a lot of things I probably shouldn't, like aren't you the parents? Start acting like it!! I wouldn't be so annoyed if it was just that they couldn't afford it, but they did just buy a flat screen t.v at christmas and his Dad went on a trip with friends, so what does that say!
Thanks ladies, I can't vent to just anybody, especially about his parents LOL!
Call your TA and see if you can get an extension. We had a number of guests who got an extension and had to pay just 4 weeks before they left. Don't pay for it yourself! Even though I know it's hard not to! Tell your FMIL when you talk to her (calmly) that the due date is here, and that payment is due! And if they ask for help, state that unfortunately you only have room to pay for your trip and the wedding payments. Leave it at that. (hopefully you will know that they have some extra time, because it's been arranged with the TA) But you don't want to tell them they now have an extra couple of weeks....After all they are adults.
I also know about the commute thing. We actually just bought a house further away (so that we can afford a family home) in Burlington. But I will be commuting into Toronto, the only saving grace is I work shift work, so I will usually avoid the rush hour traffic.
Originally Posted by TLGnhci
Ugh, sorry Colleen. That is just un-necessary stress. Hope they can pull it together for you! I can relate somewhat. I don't think my fam will be able to cover their trip for 3 people. So I'm gonna have to foot the bill for that. If I didn't, fi and I would be doing great at getting stuff paid off. I work two jobs and really didn't want to go into debt for this wedding. And I'm trying to get out of my momma if she kept the 500 I already gave her so I can put that toward the bill. So, ugh... I see what your going through. Money is I think my biggest stressor!
Anywho, good news is I have a job interview today! I'll have to start commuting but I hate my current job so at this point, I hope all goes well!
Best of luck on your job interview!