Are you and your fiance waiting to consumate...

[1elephant]

i have no self-restraint. i practically attacked dh on our second date, a story which he loves to tell.

 

i give you props tho, good for you for waiting!

[Kat81]

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Originally Posted by Just Martha I know! She just got on the pill too. She is excited, but I have noticed lately that she is kinda mean to him (okay, really mean) and I think for sure she will use sex against him when she is mad. Poor guy. They are only 23 though....

I hate it when girls do that! My hairdresser tells me about how she hasn't given her husband any for a week because he made her mad I'm like WTF?! I don't think I could go that long for one and for two that is just not what sex is for. It's not a powertrip

[Yari]

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Originally Posted by lauren c. i have no self-restraint. i practically attacked dh on our second date, a story which he loves to tell.

OMG, me too! We had a bottle of red wine at dinner and now as a joke he will say how about a bottle of red wine and then let's go back to my place. LOL! So cute, memories!

[FYB87]

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Originally Posted by Mel Kudos to you guys that can hold out. I made sure he was the right one and I haven't been with anyone else. No way in heck we could even hold out the 35 days to our wedding. We said no sex the day before...hmmm wonder if that will even work?! I think it would be impossible to not do something since we live together and have for the past 3 years.

If we were living together we would have done it already!!

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Originally Posted by Just Martha I have a baby ticker, so that's a "no" for me! But, I have a friend getting married in June and she and her FI have been together for 5 years and they are both still virgins. I think it's awesome and truly have no idea how they do it...they get drunk together all the time then just go to bed to sleep! Anyhow, when ppl at work heard she was a virgin they laughed and made jokes. Some people are rude and mean.

Five years? Just kill me. But, then I have been married before and I know what I'm missing!

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Originally Posted by Just Martha Well, they do "things", but I am not exactly sure what....I know no intercourse though. I never wanted to ask her what they have done...but she has made comments that she not dead, just a virgin.

Yeah...we initially said we just wouldn't have intercourse. But, on two occassions we did other stuff!! However, that just made it really hard so we just stopped doing the other stuff. So now we make out like a couple of teenagers. I've never kissed so much in my life. And sometimes I think he's going to hurt himself with all the grinding he does!!

[Pisces]

I think this is entirely a personal choice (and not one I've made) but I don't really understand why the choice to wait is considered something to send kudos about?

 

I respect either decision, but I don't see myself as weak for having sex prior to marriage, nor do I see anyone else as strong for having waited.

[plumsugar]

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Originally Posted by Kat81 I can't imagine five years with someone without having sex then all of a sudden it being part of the relationship. I wonder if it will be hard for them?

::giggle::

Ok Ok..it probably wasnt pun intended, but I had to make note of it! No self restraint in this department either lol!

[Kat81]

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Originally Posted by plumsugar ::giggle:: Ok Ok..it probably wasnt pun intended, but I had to make note of it! No self restraint in this department either lol!

LOL there I go again speaking before I think... One time I was at a bowling alley the kind with the speakers to talk to the front desk and my bowling ball wasn't coming back out and then my ex threw his and it didn't come back. So, I went to the speaker and said "Um hi your machine won't work and my balls are all stuck up in there" My ex and brother started laughing so hard and I couldn't even understand what the guy was saying back I was sooo mortified!!! My brother still quotes that line LOL

[Kat81]

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Originally Posted by Pisces I think this is entirely a personal choice (and not one I've made) but I don't really understand why the choice to wait is considered something to send kudos about? I respect either decision, but I don't see myself as weak for having sex prior to marriage, nor do I see anyone else as strong for having waited.

I don't think it's bad to have sex... Trust me lol. But I think it takes a lot of mental and physical strength not to. I couldn't do it at all!! I'm not weak I just have a really really strong sex drive.

[BarefootBride]

Ladies in Waiting... I HIGHLY suggest getting lots of sleep the night before the wedding and relaxing the day of the wedding... dont drink too much or dance too much or anything else too much or else you wont have the strength to do the do later on that night. In fact if any of you all were me, I would be shutting down the reception by 8pm so FI and I could get to business!

As far as me waiting... Geez FI cant get me to get off of him most of the time. But we pretty much are a married couple without the papers. We are going to try to make a baby before July.

[BarefootBride]

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Originally Posted by FYB87 However, that just made it really hard so we just stopped doing the other stuff. So now we make out like a couple of teenagers. I've never kissed so much in my life. And sometimes I think he's going to hurt himself with all the grinding he does!!

TMI!!! LMAO! Somehow I have a visual!!! You are too funny!

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Originally Posted by Pisces I think this is entirely a personal choice (and not one I've made) but I don't really understand why the choice to wait is considered something to send kudos about? I respect either decision, but I don't see myself as weak for having sex prior to marriage, nor do I see anyone else as strong for having waited.

LOL Pisces, as a person with a serious sex drive... waiting is a soooooooooo hard to do! You either have to be really strong or just unavailable to men. And in my opinion a hand or tool cannot replace a man.