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#11 Hartyt509

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    Posted 27 March 2008 - 11:30 AM

    I don't think its in poor taste at all. Weddings are v expensive and people understand.

    Myself and FI had this discussion the other day, my mum is dead and my dad lives on the other side of the world and won't be coming to the wedding. His step-dad is dead and his mother has re-married (long story!!). They are contributing nothing to the wedding and if I had my way she wouldn't even be going lol

    So I've said if he wants to buy his mother a gift he can do it himself cause I am defo not. We don't like each other and I refuse to spend a penny on her as she will only whinge anway.

    So i think its a matter of personal preference, its a token of thank you and I'm sure they'll be grateful for something small that was personal other than some grand gesture.

    #12 Betsy

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      Posted 27 March 2008 - 11:32 AM

      We are just doing a little card/note with hanky's and cigar cutters. I am writing both my parents a heartfelt note and honestly I think they will appreciate that more! Plus I don't want to give them a fragile/nice gift that they will have to figure out how to transport back to USA! I love the photobook idea - I will probably try to do that too.

      #13 Helen_S81

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        Posted 27 March 2008 - 03:55 PM

        My opinion, I'd rather my daughter and her FI *not* buy me a gift. My daughter is pretty good about making cards and writing thoughtful things in them for us. I'd love some photo's put together in a book though :)

        #14 Chiquita

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          Posted 27 March 2008 - 04:17 PM

          I'll be doing what most girls here have already said, giving them a book of wedding pictures after the wedding :)

          #15 ErinB

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            Posted 27 March 2008 - 04:35 PM

            I'm having a friend make a necklace for my mom to match her dress. We really don't have any extra money right now! I'm personally paying for about 1/2 of the wedding myself--our joint savings account is going towards a house.

            I agree that a heartfelt note and a photobook after the wedding would be a great gift!

            #16 chicago88

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              Posted 27 March 2008 - 05:53 PM

              No, I don't think it's in poor taste at all. I'm sure they'll be happy with a nice thank you card.

              What we did was have a nice 8x10 picture frame personalized with our names, date, etc. & put a picture of us from the wedding. We gave them these after we came back from our trip. There's an option that's reasonably priced & sentimental.



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              #17 starchild

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                Posted 27 March 2008 - 06:47 PM

                We did what some of you did too, hankies at the ceremony and a framed print afterwards. We also gave them a garden stone at our AHR with our names/date/location & a love verse to put in the yard because they are into gardening. Oh, and we got them a personalized thank you card with wedding photos from kodak gallery. All together it was very inexpensive and they weren't expecting anything.

                #18 rodent

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                  Posted 27 March 2008 - 07:28 PM

                  Quote:
                  Originally Posted by Helen_S81
                  My opinion, I'd rather my daughter and her FI *not* buy me a gift. My daughter is pretty good about making cards and writing thoughtful things in them for us. I'd love some photo's put together in a book though :)
                  Great to have the opinion for the mother of the bride.

                  My mom doesn't typically like me to buy her stuff. She likes me to make her stuff, write a sweet note/ card & give her pictures. If I gave her an expensive gift at the wedding, I don't think she'd be too thrilled. But, I know she will be expecting pictures.

                  #19 MelanieS

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                    Posted 27 March 2008 - 07:51 PM

                    As a MOB who is paying for the wedding, I do not expect a gift. After all, it's not my wedding. I want the bride and groom to receive the gifts, not the parents! (But a photobook is always nice, Mandy!)

                    #20 rodent

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                      Posted 27 March 2008 - 07:55 PM

                      Quote:
                      Originally Posted by timelsel
                      As a MOB who is paying for the wedding, I do not expect a gift. After all, it's not my wedding. I want the bride and groom to receive the gifts, not the parents! (But a photobook is always nice, Mandy!)
                      Ha Ha! Nice subtle hint. I have learned from my mom, moms love photobooks. Grandmas love them, too.




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