Ok Ladies...I need to give you an update / vent on the wedding drama that started on Thanksgiving (below is refresher for the noobies). I haven't spoke to my soon to be in laws since the day that they backed out (over 31 days and counting). No..this was not intentional, but I have had no reason speak to them and I stopped making them a top priority in my life since clearly, the wedding of their son and I is not a top priority in their life. I am super busy anyway. I work long hours, I volunteer just about every Saturday, I work out and I have a wedding to plan, so I haven't had the time/energy/desire to go out of my way to see/talk to them. I have in no way hindered my FI's relationship with his father. He has been to see them since this fiasco numerous times and has spoken to his father on the phone...so you'll understand my shock when his father calls him and says "why are you alienating me?" Seriously, WTF... (I didn't know a guilty conscious could make you so dramatic)
My FI had a 30 min long conversation with his father about why I was pissed (and justifiably so) and that he was not alienating his father. Long story short..My FIL's wife sends me a text message that we need to sit down and talk... I can't imagine what these people have to say to me. I'm shocked that they have time to talk to me in between getting ready for the move that's 6 mos away or estimating the cost of jeep shocks or the trailor...I am really so done with this, however my FI told me to be a good sport and hear them out so guess how I am spending my Friday night?! WooHoo!! Give you ladies an update soon. (I guarantee they haven't even checked the prices for a 2 night stay)
Originally Posted by diahr
Hey Ladies. I hope that everyone had a HAPPY THANKSGIVING! With that...I need to do some serious venting and I think only my Royal brides and brides to be will understand. So after my father-in-law (and his wife - my FI's stepmom) guilted us into coming over to there house for Thanksgiving before leaving to go to Philadelphia to visit my family, they dropped the bomb on me that they didn't think they would be able to make the wedding. This is the very first "backout" that I have had. I know we would get some, but not my FI's dad for EFF sake!! I gotta be honest and say this is devastating to me. My father-in-law and his wife have known since we got engaged over 6 mos ago that we were doing a destination wedding. They were one of the core people that I considered before committing to the idea. We are extremely close to these people. And now....they backout?!
The reasons (more BS to me) include "I can't get the time off of work" (my father-in-law works in the school system, his wife is a Realtor), "I have to equip my jeep with shocks and a trailor" (they are allegedly moving to TX in June and are driving), and "We have to get ready to move" (again, they are moving allegedly in June, our wedding is in April). WTF?! Am I crazy or is this complete BS? Please be aware that my father-in-law owns his home and he makes almost if not 6 figures. Come on....! They even went so far as to get their passports a few months ago further leading us on that they were going! I think at the end of the day, they are just scared. I would have rather been told that than the money bs coming from people that obviously have money. Did I mention that they tried to get us to go away with them for Christmas?!
I don't know how to feel, but we are at the point of no return. The photog, wedding stay and honeymoon, and wedding date are booked. My MOHs are booking this weekend. I am so pissed. These people have been involved everystep of the way. I seriously have no desire to even speak to them, but my FI says that is being bitter. WTF ever... ! Than my father-in-law had the nerve to ask me to throw a AHR when we got back. My response - absolutely not! We (my FI and I) are paying for 100% of this wedding by ourselves. Our family has chipped in nothing nor have they offered and my 6 figure earning, BS spewing, scaredy pants father-in-law wants us to incur even more costs (we are not rich folks) and throw a party to make him and his wife feel better / involved?! Screw that!!!! I told him that I am paying for nothing else. If people can't come to the wedding, that's their business, but my FI and I will not be paying for anything else. We want to invest everything in our wedding day when we commit to each other forever. Jeesh!!! Sorry for the long post but I had to get that out. Woke up with steam still coming out of my ears!! So So pissed.