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Re-asking to be a bridesmaid?

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#1 BrittneyD

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    Posted 27 February 2008 - 02:23 AM

    I started planning a tradional wedding right after I got engaged. I asked 5 girls to be my bridesmaids...my sister, a long time friend, Pete's sister, Pete's SIL, and my cousin. When we decided on a DW, I only wanted 1 bridesmaid, but now I am not so sure. I really want my friend to be a bridesmaid too, but I am nervous that I will hurt Pete's sister and SIL's feelings. My cousin is not coming. I have thought about having all of them, but I don't want my bridal party to get to big. What is the best way to do this?
    Brittney & Peter
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    Riu Ocho Rios


    #2 JaimeLynne

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      Posted 27 February 2008 - 02:32 AM

      I think the "politically correct" thing to do would be to either just ask your sister or ask all 4. My FSIL didn't invite me to be in her wedding and I did feel a little hurt. It's your wedding though so in the end do what makes you feel good :)

      ~ Jaime & Martin ~
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      We had 24 people attend our wedding in Las Caletas, Mexico on May 24th, 2009!

      We all stayed at The Marriott in P.V., and Honeymooned at The Royal Plantation in Ochos Rios, Jamaica!

      #3 Yari

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        Posted 27 February 2008 - 03:14 AM

        I think since you already asked them to be in your original wedding, they should be in your DW.

        #4 Dbld78

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          Posted 27 February 2008 - 03:16 AM

          yeah....that's sticky! i would just keep them all, you don't want to offend or upset any of them since you did already ask them, but i totally know what you mean about having a smaller bridal party. i went through a similar thing too.

          #5 Sandra E.

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            Posted 27 February 2008 - 10:46 AM

            My sister-in-law didn't include me in her wedding when she married my brother. However, since my sister and her were friends she was in the wedding and also my cousin and my other brother was in the wedding. It was strange for me a bit. So it's best to include them all or at least come up with a special title like a guest of honor, etc. Make sure they are part of your wedding some way.

            #6 BrittneyD

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              Posted 29 February 2008 - 01:37 AM

              I decided to ask all 4 girls. Thanks for your help!
              Brittney & Peter
              July 12, 2008
              Riu Ocho Rios


              #7 twixygrl

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                Posted 06 March 2008 - 02:35 AM

                Great decision...really why should asking them to be in a DW be any different. I know I am a little late on this, but just to step on a soap box...if they are willing to travel and bear the expense of showing up to honor your day, why not have them stand up for you at the DW? They were important enough to stand up for you in your original wedding plans, so the fact you are having a DW shouldn't change that.

                I only say that because am not a real traditional person as far as having equal numbers on each side etc. I say if they want to come and be a part of the special day...let them.

                It sounds like you did. Good for you, I am sure they will all be proud to be a part of your special day.

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