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Yay for the MothM banner Amanda!! You def deserve it!!

Ok I have to get this off my chest. My mom and I do not have a good relationship. But I can go home and visit and things are a little superficial but fine. She has not been supportive of my decision to marry, where to do it or the man I am doing it to.

But in an effort to keep things normal I have been lightly involving her in wedding stuff, giving her the project of getting pashminas and helped me with BM gifts.

She also wanted to buy my dress which I was happy for. She ended up not offering to by the first dress I fell in love with because I has initially tried it on with my step mom. Yes she is this petty. However I did end up finding a new and better dress in CO (mom lives in Chicago). I obvi was always planning on buying the dress in CO where I LIVE!! I can not being flying to Chicago for fittings all the time etc as I can not afford it and I do not have enough time off from my job.

SO there was a price increase happening on the dress I wanted, So I needed to order last week, I called my mom that morning saying I have to order the dress today or the price will increase $150. Can you please call me and let me know how you want to do the deposit?

Well, not only can I assume that she no longer wants to buy my dress as she NEVER CALLED ME BACK!!!!! I mean even if she does not want to pay .. at least call and be excited for me! I bought my dream wedding dress !!

I am really pissed that I am letting her ruin this time for me. I need to just realize that it is HER issues, and not let it bother me so much.

Aww I am sorry your Mom is being like that! But screw her! YAY for your wedding dress! Did you buy it? I say buy it and if your Mom offers to pay have her send you a check.

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Im sorry Erika - what a pain. It must be so frustrating. I know its so much easier said than done but try not to let it ruin this time for you! You look AMAZING in your dress and really she is the one missing out on this time in your life

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Boo from me too Erika!

 

Sometimes I wonder if people can get surrogate parents after they area adults. I have a great relationship with my mom but I have so many friends that don't and they adopt my mom. I always thought it would be great if people could adopt parents the way they do kids... Just a random thought. Perhaps my confession should be that while I'm not sure I want to have my own kids I want to adopt everyone that has Mom-issues on BDW!

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Erika, I'm sorry you still haven't heard from your mom. I have mom issues of my own (the fact that she is the most selfish person on the planet) but Unfortunately we cannot pick our parents, although I am just loving Tracy's idea!

 

I know its easy for us to tell you to move on, enjoy your wedding and ignore her but you'll still be upset and disappointed because she is your mom and she shouldn't do that and she is suppose to be the "grown-up" no matter how old we get.

 

We are here anytime you need to vent! :)

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I fifth everyone's opinion that your mom sucks! Of all people mom's should understand what an important event a daughter's wedding is...not to mention finding the perfect dress!! (congrats by the way bunny_4.gif)

I think it is very selfish of your mom to not so much return your phone call! I say tell the bridal salon to send her the bill for the remaining balance!!!

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Thanks Ladies!! I hate being a negative nelly and I was just mad at myself for letting it get to me. Because I know she is flat out crazy and doing what i assume she thinks is best.

 

I mean I should just GET OVER IT!!

 

I want to think of happy things like my wedding and playing beer pong in the pool and our vegas trip.

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Thanks Kate!! I hate when my emotions take over when it comes to my reactions to my mom, but at least I am aware and I can move forward with it.

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Some people really don't get it Megan. Did you already tell her what color to look for?? Maybe you could give her a few options instead of sending her out to look for herself. Say "I'd love to see you in yellow/gold/etc. It would look great on you and you wouldn't clash with the wedding colors!!!" Or something like that! Good Luck & be sure to post pics when she decides!! :)

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