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#1 foxytv

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    Posted 11 February 2008 - 06:35 PM

    So, I have a Matron of Honor and 3 BM's. I don't have a Maid of Honor (yet).

    My Matron of Honor is my closest friend from when I lived in WV.

    My BM's are my sister, my future sister-in-law and a local friend.

    My sister and I have never been really close so I chose not to make her my Maid of Honor and simply not have one.

    However, through the wedding planning process, my sister has really stepped up and helped me out and done whatever possible to make this wedding memorable for me. And since we have never been very close (she's my little sis, 5 years younger), I really expected very little of her.

    But, not counting my sis, virtually every single one of my BM's has been a total, major letdown (except for FSIL who lives far away but would do anything she could if it were possible) -- and given the chance to do it over ... I would have as my BM's only my sister, FSIL, and a high school friend who is now planning my bachelorette party b/c neither of the other BM's stepped up to the plate to do it.

    Anyway, my sister just hosted a shower for me this past weekend in MD (I am in SC and she is in GA) and she is also helping with the local SC shower, and the bachelorette party in NC (and she doesn't make a whole lot of money, but works a TON of hours, so she is limited in many ways).

    It's really made me see how important family is and how we (I) take them for granted too often. So, I would like to call her my Maid of Honor ... but am trying to figure out how to do it. It would be no other 'duties' for her, it's more of a 'thank you' gesture for everything she has been doing to help me.

    I have my first dress fitting tomorrow evening and she is driving up from GA to go with me and then we are going to MAC for our makeovers and then working on DIY stuff tomorrow night. So I would like to bring it up during her visit ... but want to think of a simple, but special way to do so.

    I can just give her a card and write in it how much I appreciate all she's done, blah blah and say I am glad I didn't 'appoint' anyone to be the MOH, b/c there is no one I would rather have in that position than her ... but any other ideas would be great!!!

    #2 rodent

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      Posted 11 February 2008 - 06:38 PM

      My FSIL gave me a box full of chocolate with a card that said "will you be my bridesmaid?" It was really cute. The box looked like chinese takeout. Anyway maybe a little gift like that & a card would be sweet.

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        Posted 11 February 2008 - 06:42 PM

        I think that giving her the card is great along with telling her just what you told us as far as how she truly stepped up to the plate & is making this memorable for you. You could always take her to dinner after the dress fitting & makeovers & then give her the card there. Just the thought of what you're doing seems very special & I'm sure she'll be delighted & touched.

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          Posted 11 February 2008 - 06:47 PM

          I also want to add i think it's wonderful the wedding has brought you two closer together. Often we hear so much about how wedding make people fight with their loved ones or brings out the worst in people. It's wonderful that they can also bring out the best in people or stregthen a bond.

          OK, I'm becoming sappy bride.

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            Posted 11 February 2008 - 06:51 PM

            Quote:
            Originally Posted by Morgan
            I also want to add i think it's wonderful the wedding has brought you two closer together. Often we hear so much about how wedding make people fight with their loved ones or brings out the worst in people. It's wonderful that they can also bring out the best in people or stregthen a bond.

            OK, I'm becoming sappy bride.
            Add me to the sappy bride list. I'm telling you as I was reading Tami's post I was like "AWWWWWWWW, how sweet" ...sniffle, sniffle!

            #6 foxytv

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              Posted 11 February 2008 - 06:52 PM

              Quote:
              Originally Posted by Morgan
              I also want to add i think it's wonderful the wedding has brought you two closer together. Often we hear so much about how wedding make people fight with their loved ones or brings out the worst in people. It's wonderful that they can also bring out the best in people or stregthen a bond.

              OK, I'm becoming sappy bride.
              Quote:
              Originally Posted by JUSTUSTWO
              Add me to the sappy bride list. I'm telling you as I was reading Tami's post I was like "AWWWWWWWW, how sweet" ...sniffle, sniffle!
              Count me in too. I was tearing up as I wrote it.

              :sniffle:

              #7 Maura

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              Posted 11 February 2008 - 07:10 PM

              aw tami. im jealous i wish my sister and i were closer because of my wedding. she's my MOH and i almost wish she wasnt from reading how good your sister has been to you! i agree with the other gals, you should give her a card and tell her everything and how thankful you are to have her! if you tell her earlier in the day, you will really make her happy i bet, she can spend all day being excited about it!

              #8 Yari

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                Posted 12 February 2008 - 02:54 AM

                How cute, your sister will be so happy!

                #9 LCBride2007

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                  Posted 12 February 2008 - 02:59 AM

                  I think what you just told us sounds perfect - it's honest, and will let her know how much you appreciate her!

                  #10 starchild

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                    Posted 12 February 2008 - 03:55 AM

                    I agree, tell her what you told us. That's the best reason to pick a MOH. I asked my MOH over the phone because she lives far and there was no way I could wait for her to get a card in the mail, I was too excited...lol I told her how much she means to my life (with examples & such) and it went really well. (except she was driving and had to pull over because she said she was going to crash...lol)




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