I am SO SO SO happy that I found this thread! I am 30 with no kids and my FI is 38 with a set of 7 year old twins. I have been with him since the twins were 4. The first year was crazy because the "mom" wouldnt let me be around the kids. They were never married and she was still into him. Four years later, we are engaged and now getting married in December. I love the kids as they are my own. They live with us during the week (no court orders) because she cant provide for them and get them to school. We need yo go to court, but there is always that chance she will get custody. For the most part, everything works in our favor and the kids are happy, healthy, and taken care of, so thats all that matters. We are worries that she won't sign the passport forms for them to come with us. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to incorporate the FI's twins in the wedding ceremony. I want them included, but I still want the wedding to be about us.