As a Mom of a DW Bride, I am so excited that I can hardly stand it. She has always wanted to get married on a beach. It is HER day, and I get a vacation out of it Sorry you girls have had such hassles. We did have a few from my extended family, but I just told them that this is her wish for HER wedding. The new inlaws are not as excited, but they also have the option to go or not to go. Since they are not paying for any part of the wedding, I feel it is the decision is left to the happy couple. In laws are paying for their "vacation", but that is all. So that leaves the 20 people that are going willing to enjoy this time away and support the couple. I eloped and got ALOT of static, but I would not change a thing. It was about us, and our life together. Stick to your guns, just do it tactfully.