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Hey everyone, sorry to bug you but the last day is today and if I win I will get the print for free! Thanks in advance and I will let you know if I win!

Thank you everyone!

Hi girls - The photographer who did my boudoir shots is doing a contest with some of the photos she took this year. I was nominated for Best Eyes (I am #6!) Please vote for me so I can win a free print! I think ALL of the pictures are beautiful though. Thanks in advance! Erin Vote today! Best of Boudoir – 2009 Boudoir Photographer Milwaukee, Madison, Green Bay, Appleton, Wisconsin – Unveiled Portraits

Hi - I feel like this is an easy question, but when reciting the vows, who comes first, woman or man? I say woman, fi thinks man?!?! What is traditional? I would assume woman but maybe I am crazy!

I agree! You need to be upfront with your mom and tell her how you feel....

Yay! I am glad you were able to come to a conclusion.

Quote: Originally Posted by hockeymom97 There have definitely been times where I have doubted my decision. I did tons of research and just about drove myself and FI crazy trying to find the "perfect" resort. I finally realized that I wasn't going to be able to find the "perfect" resort so we made a list of the things that were most important to us and then chose the resort that best fit our top requirements. This was all before I found BDW. So then I found BDW and saw that there were so few brides booked with Beaches and I was like, wait!! Why is no one else booking with Beaches? What's wrong; did I pick the wrong resort?!?! I saw sooooo many other brides booking with RIU and thought for sure I had made a mistake. But you know what....the grass always looks greener on the other side and I think we all try so hard to make everything perfect that no matter how fantastic the resort is, somehow we will find a way to doubt the choices that we have made. All it takes is a bad review on trip advisor to send a bride into panic mode - but I think we just need to step back, take a deep breath and realize that we can't control everything. BUT despite not being able to control everything, we are all still going to have a fabulous DW :) I totally agree, I have been in panic mode more than a few times! Every time I freak about and think that I might have liked RIU better, I think about our discussion with the travel agent and then I remember why we picked Beaches. At this point I know if I go into it with doubts, then maybe I won't enjoy myself as much...so I can't let that happen! Have to stay positive.

I have created my own ceremony based on different things I have found online. We are doing a civil ceremony, but are also doing the sand cermony, and a ring warming where we will pass the rings so all the guests can give their own "blessing" for the marriage. I am really excited. I like what we came up with much better than the vows they normally use.

No, I didn't drink prior since my shoot was at 10:30 am....I wanted to, though! But I am glad I didn't because I was fine. It was just those first few where I kind of felt like OMG what am I doing?? But after awhile, it just seemed totally normal! It helps that the photog is just so used to doing it, you can tell it's all in a day of work for her, which makes it so much better! I think my proofs are available in 10-14 days, so I can't wait. I definitely think this is one of those things you can overthink and drive yourself crazy over, but there is no need! Bachata, glad your session was fun, too!

So cute! I love them.

Had my shoot today, and let me tell you...nothing to be nervous about! I had a great time getting my hair and makeup done...after that, I already felt sexy! My photographer was so nice and welcoming...she totally put me at ease! She basically posed me the whole time so it wasn't like I had to use my own imagination. I did get to see a few of the pix before I left and they were great. I barely recognized myself, haha. I think I may have a hard time picking out images for my book! My only advice is to relax....and like she kept telling me, "stick that booty out!"

Congrats and welcome!

Our DW will be in Jamaica. The only difference this way will be that it will be a symbolic ceremony rather then a regular. I guess this isn't totally perfect but I do think it will ease the stress a lot. Plus, maybe I will be a little less nervous at the actual wedding.

Quote: Originally Posted by amandseth kate.com has got it, I think. Do the legal wedding here with an officiant and your family present. My officiant did have a ceremony where we exchanged the rings and said vows and everything. Then have a symbolic ceremony at your destination. We talked about it tonight and I think this is what we are going to do!! I talked to my mom tonight and she was ecstatic. My dad's business is not doing well, and he can't even leave, I guess. So this way we will do something at home...I am even thinking possibly on New Year's Eve! Then, we will travel to Jamaica a few days later. The best of both worlds, I think....

Well, just talked to them...and they won't take the money. It is definitely a pride issue....they do not feel they can take that from us when we could put it towards a new house or something else. So, they are not coming!! They say they support it and love me but they just can't. At this point I am at such a loss. I just never would imagine getting married without my family there. But now there are so many booked. I don't know what the correct way is to handle this. The only thing that comes close would be getting married here and still going on the trip as a celebration. But would that make people mad? ARggghh!!!

Good idea...I think if you do a buy a couple then no harm done! But why would I pay $1200 for 35 photos? Totally ridiculous!

Do you have insurance? If the price of our trip goes down, we get that money back!

That is so irritating! I did not pick anything from the old Preston Bailey collection, so I was safe there...but I don't think it is fair that they can change it up on you with only two months to go. Did you get a listing of the upgrades that you can get now that the packages have changed? My WC (Beaches Boscobel) said that would be available in Nov. I see your wedding is only 3 days before mine...I was wondering how busy the resort would be at that time, but obviously quite busy...

GREAT ideas!

I have my shoot on Saturday and I am so excited. I am nervous, but I am hoping it doesn't come through in the photos. Judging by the examples shown here, I don't think it will!

Hello and welcome!

Yes, on second thought, going ahead and buying the tickets probably isn't smart. We are going to talk to our travel agent and see what is available...and then I will have the information ready when I talk to them. If that does not work, I don't know what to do. But I feel like I have come so far at this point that it would simply be selfish for them to not accept!

And as you can see, our wedding is about two months!!! WTF?

So, I don't know if anyone on here remembers my post about my family being dead set against this wedding due to a variety of factors. They seemed to be over it, but now are saying they can't come due to financial reasons. In all fairness, my parents are under HUGE financial stress right now. My dad's business is not doing well. My brother who is in sales has also hit a rough patch. However, we announced our plans in May and it is now November. We also have quite a few people booked. Part of me feels like I can't go on without my family there! Every other guest (besides a single friend of mine!) is from his side! Awhile ago we offered to buy my family's tickets, but they refused, saying they would never take our money. I seriously think they believe I should cancel it due to them. Last night, FI say screw it, let's just buy them the tickets. This is getting ridiculous. For us to move anything at this point would be so costly, not only to us but to all of those who have already booked. I know they would be mad if we booked it for them, but I think they would get over it. I don't know what to do. The other option is to just get married here and then go on the trip, but I know that won't be the same. Thoughts on how to handle this? Believe me, I have tried talking/crying, etc. I feel like I can't tell if they really can't afford it or if they just don't want to come! But how can I go with no one on my side?

A phone call always seems to work best!