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Quote: Originally Posted by Tifany I think that's an odd thing he was told by the immigration lawyer. I think an organized affair with friends and family, despite the location, would make it appear a bona fide ceremony. Also, I think the policy is once you apply for the green card (NOT the marriage license) you are unable to leave the states unless special permission is granted. My fiance isn't from the US, but we have been through this with many of his friends. How will the resort know if it is a legal ceremony or not? Don't they just hand you a certificate there? I swear friends of ours were married in another country and just kept the certificate they were given. I don't know, my fiance said the immigration lawyer said he couldn't cross the border after applying for a marriage license but the applying for a green card part makes much more sense to me. Logicaly progression of things would be for us to legally get married here, go there with our marriage license, "renew vows" (honeymoon as far as the US government is concerned), return home and apply for the green card. But I didn't talk to the lawyer so all I know is heresay. And the resort won't let you have a ceremony unless they apply for the license for you (at which time the country files it with the US on your behalf) or you prove you're already married and renew your vows. My fiance suggested we act like we'll go through with the legal part and just not sign the license (he thought it'd be funny to draw a house). But the resort draws all that up for you and they'd already have our ss numbers and birth certificates....

It's 47 days until our wedding. We just found out that *most Jamaican resorts won't do a symbolic ceremony. You MUST either do a legal wedding or provide proof of a marriage license for a vow renewal. My fiance is Canadian, i'm American and we both live in the states (he has a work visa). He is going to get a green card once we get married. After we booked my fiance talked to an immigration lawyer and found out that we can't get married outside of the states if he wants a green card (looks like a scam or something) AND once we apply for a marriage license he can't LEAVE the states for 6-9 months (some family emergency/event exceptions you have to apply for). So like I said, we're 47 days out from our wedding and i'm just now finding out we have no options for a ceremony at the resort (Breezes Runaway Bay). I'm calling the wedding coordinator in the morning to talk to her. I don't care if they pull a waiter off duty and tell him to read the script I wrote. We have 30 other people going down there and something needs to be worked out! Even if they still let us use the WC, chairs, and get the free cake (which is all we were getting out of the deal anyway) - or heck, I don't even need the WC! So this is our fault for not checking into green card requirements BEFORE making wedding plans. I saw alot of resorts offering symbolic ceremonies and I assumed this was something all resorts offered (seems silly not to). But apparently this isn't the case in Jamaica, not just BRB. I just wanted to warn other international couples so they can be checking into things themselves and avoiding this conflict right before their wedding. I'm so panicked right now.

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Maybe landy was just really busy when I contacted them? Yeah, having my fiance do my measurements was pretty laughable. The only alteration I had to have done (custom measurements) was to have the dress hemmed (they just went ahead and added 2+ inches assuming you're wearing heels and i'm going barefoot) and I had a bustle added. The hem was $65 and bustle was $25. But that will vary from tailor to tailor obviously. I was REALLY pleased with gianinarbridal on ebay (didn't go through ebay, just email and paypal).

Quote: Originally Posted by sam33 This thread is brilliant. I already have a dress but im not really sure if i like it enough. After reading all your information and checking out some of the sites you recomend, have decided to email two of them for costing on a Sottero Midgley dress ASM3275 for a TTD Landybridal and Duosheng.com I am hoping the pricing is within limit if it is then im taking the plunge and ordering it. I don't think you'll be disappointed. In my research some of the places were more expensive $400+ but most are less than $250 for a great dress. If it matters at all, Landy told me they don't do custom dresses - just what's on their website so hopefully they have a dress you want!

SgtPepperette - I'm so glad you chose to wear it! It looks fabulous in your picture!!

Quote: Originally Posted by moonpalacebride Very reasonable! I've been trying to find something similarly priced plumerias, but have had no luck at all . Most bouquet makers that I've found say that the plumerias are more expensive than any of the other real touch flowers for some reason! So you must be using what the resort provides for you then? That's correct. I just can't justify spending tons and tons of money on flowers. My fiance said he didn't like fake flowers because they didn't look real. So we compromised (he was more than willing after I told him how much all the things we HAD to buy were going to cost). My bouquet and his bout are free. I'm going to see if I can at least request that they be "pink" to sorta match. But I don't mind being a little different - we're the bride and groom so its ok.

Quote: Originally Posted by roo66 Hi they are very pretty are they pulmaria?I have seen these flowers when we were looking at weddings in Hawaii.Can i make a suggestion without being rude, could you tie some ribbon around the stems with pearl pins.I think that it would make them really expensive looking. x Yes, they are plumeria (hilariously they are foam). There's already organza ribbon tied around the stems - its just a sage green so it sorta blends in too much. Not sure yet if i'll leave it or change it. I usually prefer satin to organza anyway (or some other solid ribbon).

Those look FANTASTIC!!

I didn't want to pay the $300+ for real flowers that the resort was going to charge us so I started looking into "real touch" flower options. I came across a seller on etsy that had some beautiful bouquets for sale. I contacted her and we worked out a deal. I'm insanely please that I could get what I wanted within a reasonable price range. I paid $125 in total (plus $7 shipping). I recieved: - 3 bridesmaid bouquets - 4 bouts - 3 pin-on corsages Her shop website is: Custom wedding flowers bridal bouquets and more by jdleggans She was really nice and accommodating, she sent proof pictures and would have adjusted anything I wanted before purchase. I definitely recommend her if you're looking fora budget friendly flower options. My only slight dislike is how dark the orchids are (which I new before finalizing the purchase). I'm just not really concerned enough to have asked her to change it. The bouquets are pretty small but that's what the girls wanted - nothing big. I haven't take pictures myself but here are the ones she posted on the etsy listing.

Glad I could help. I'm sure I never would have found the site without some of the other ladies here!

Quote: Originally Posted by FutureMrs.D Does anyone know if the shipping for these dresses is reasonable? Mine from china was US $60. In total my dress was $180 which is an outstanding deal!

Quote: Originally Posted by mrss2010 Not only customs, but if a company ships UPS I don't order anything from them. UPS never manages to get the package to my door - I have to drive a zillion miles to pick the thing up. Then they charge me on top of any customs an extra $55 - they call it a "brokerage fee". For sure, UPS is a terrible deal for Canadians! It seems be hard to completely avoid orderings things from the states though. I just thought i'd check around and see if I could give my FSIL some guidance on invites.

Quote: Originally Posted by CancunBride71010 My bridal gown from Landy Bridal arrived today!!!!! I wanted something similar to Simone Carvalli 7124 without the beading. Landy did a wonderful job. I will post photos as soon as I can find someone other than my FI to help with the lace up back. Hurry hurry! Haha how exciting!

Make an offer - I'd like to get it gone asap! Thanks!

Well, maybe its because your not a large corporation like hallmark, paper divas or something that my fsil would be ordering from. But I do know paying customs for things ordered from the states us a VERY common thing for Canadians.

Quote: Originally Posted by anacgarcia I've sent invites to Canada and I've never been told they had to pay custom fees to get the invites, I'm sure I would have heard back from a client if they had to. How did you mark the customs form? That also depends on how they'll be charged (if you declare the full value vs mark it as a gift). In some cases I think it depends on where the product is MADE if its coming from a major company.

azulskies that's stunning on you!! The lace is fantastic for a destination wedding! Just gorgeous!

Welcome! I'm not a Costa Rica bride but my fiance and I vacationed there last year (Guanacaste) and it was FANTASTIC! I love the country and want to go back some day! I'm very jealous you're getting married there! Good luck with your planning. I'm sure you'll love BDW!

I KNOW he has a problem and nobody is taking it lightly. But he's also not a homeless bum who's doing illegal things to score. He's not a meth addict or somebody who has needle holes in his arms. Everybody is worried about him mostly because of the mental health issues which are brought about by the drugs - not just because of the drugs alone. I'm angry at him for doing this to himself and the family because it hurts me. We grew up together, spending every week together with our families at a lake. We were born the same year. It HURTS for him to be doing this and not thinking of how its making everybody feel (not just because its fucking with my wedding). I'm angry at him in general - even taking the wedding out of the situation. No, I won't act out to get attention. But I don't think its wrong to feel like I deserve some every now and then either. Thanks to ALL of you for your comments. Sometimes I need people to help me refocus and remind me its not the end of the world. Mods- I actually feel like maybe the best thing would be to delete this thread altogether.

Quote: Originally Posted by DanielleNDerek I think that because i'm already married i can see both sides easier. I've been dissappointed by people who said they would definately be there and changed their minds, i've gotten guilt trips from my grandparents aunts etc, and i've stressed about this stuff. But I also know that once you get to your location for your wedding you totally forget about all these people and all the other stuff you were stressing about. Its crazy but once i stepped off that plane i felt like a weight was lifted off me and i felt great. and dont feel bad about how many people you have coming compared to how many people he has coming. All the people coming are really coming to see both of you get married and spend time with both of you. Your 2 months away from your big day dont let people get to you because when your in Jamaica your not even going to give those people a second thought. Your going to be too busy having the best time. Everything will be perfect in the end, just keep reminding yourself. Aww thank you. I can't wait till we get there. I want it to be NOW! I need a vacation. I appreciate you helping me realize what is and isn't important and that we'll still have a wonderful wedding.

Quote: Originally Posted by staceysbride It's weird, I remember a friend asking me for a sample of my material and told me to take it from the inside seams. Her mom is making my veil and she is making my garter, hence wanting material to match color. Well, when you look inside my gown- you can't get at the seams. I know when you look at shots of the train, you can *see* the shadow of the seams when the sun is hitting it, but it's like the material has no seams exposed. I don't know HOW they made this gown. I looked for an exposed seam because that was another place I was told you'll sometimes find the maker's info- but nada. You'd think since this was a sample, it'd be there somewhere. But the only tag is for Schaffer's (a dress shop in Des Moines, IA) and the hang straps are blank. There's a style tag hanging inside the dress, but no maker's name. It's funny, all this time I didn't post a pic because I was worried people would be like 'omg, what an ugly dress'. silly me. Thank you for the compliment! -Nikki VERY silly! That's the kind of dress I dreamed about growing up! yeah, I don't know how they do it either but most dresses have hidden seems (meaning the seam is inside the lining). I don't sew so I have a hard time imagining how they manage that!

Quote: Originally Posted by ~Nicole~ Yup! I completely agree with Amanda! Although we try to brace ourselves for disappointment, its still really hard to swallow when it happens to us. But like she said, that's why the already married people stick around! Because we went through all that worrying and stress and we came out of it saying "i had the best time of my life". I was devastated when I only had 7 people book to come to my wedding. None included any parents, only my brother, sister and a few close friends. But I can assure you this - you won't miss anyone that isn't there. I swear to GOD you won't. And I know that its easy for me to say that, but I really was a wreck before the wedding. Luckily I have made some amazing friendships on BDW and they got me through it . You're entitled to have bad days and that's why we're here. Aww. Thank you. I'm glad you're wedding was spectacular. You look beautiful in your siggy! And thanks. For the most part I'm just ready to go and excited no matter what but every now and then a bad day rears its head!

Nikki - WOW! THAT is a dress! I don't know who makes it. Usually their name is on the hanger strings and sometimes sewn into the dress inside. Sorry i'm no help. Its beautiful regardless so who cares! haha.

nsbride2010 - you're so sweet. Thank you for understanding. BachataBride - you're right. I can't take it so personally and think they don't care. It might be more of a struggle for them than it seems. I absolutely can't say thank you enough to the wonderful ladies of BDW. A million times over, you are the best!