Quote: Originally Posted by Amarillis I have to go against the grain on this one... I truly believe that it is inappropriate to expect anyone who is not invited to the wedding to be expected to attend other pre-wedding functions, including showers, engagement parties, bachelorette parties, stag and does, etc. (in my opinion, the only exception is an office/work hosted celebration-shower). I also agree with Amarillis. I personally would just have a small shower with those that are invited to the wedding. I just would not want the possibility of anyone thinking it is a gift grabbing invite. You can still enjoy the shower experience regardless of the number of guests. You can celebrate with the others at your AHR.