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No we don't live together. When he was still here in school he had his own apartment.

Quote: Originally Posted by Yari Oh no. Do you know where he is at? Is he at his parents? Can you call there? I think he's at his parents home or atleast that's where he's supposed to be. I could call there I just didn't want to. I know it's what I need to do but I really don't want to have to call their house.

I've had a lot of time to think during this past week, shed a lot of tears, and I think I've come the conclusion that it's over. It makes me want to cry to know that it's over but I feel it's what I have to do. There is no reason why he hasn't called me in a week and it's unacceptable. I've put up with this bull shit before and I'm not going to put up with it any more. I know I should have put my foot down in the past but I didn't and now I know better. Now I know that I deserve soooo much more.

Quote: Originally Posted by EricaG I am so sorry that you are still going through this. You do not deserve this at all, no matter what. Here I am getting upset that Larry wasn't coming home earlier, and there you are waiting for a week for your man to come home. I guess a few hours is nothing, and I am now feeling a little selfish getting upset earlier. Thanks for letting us have an update, and I am hoping that the next update will have some good news! Awww don't feel selfish. You had every right to get upset. I would have been upset too. I'm hoping I have some good news for every one soon too. I know I've said this many times before but I'm really glad I had BDW to come to for support. I have no one to talk to here that isn't involved. My mom is pissed. She wants me to change my number and tell him it's over. My best friend is out for blood literally so I can't really talk to her. I can't talk to my sisters about it because they would NEVER forgive him. So all I have is you ladies. And I really thank all of you from the bottom of my heart for the support because with out you I probably would have days ago. So thank you!!!

Congratulations and welcome and back!!! Sounds like you had a wonderful time despite the check-in process but I'm glad every thing turned out great!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by Pug3636 So sorry you haven't heard anything yet. You don't deserve this. You sound just like my best friend. But you are right I don't deserve this and even if I did it still isn't right. I'm really beginning to reconsider our engagement. If he's doing immature things like this now I can only imagine how our marriage would be. I hate that I even had to say that but it's the truth. We def. have a lot and I A LOT to talk about.

Still haven't heard any thing. I'm past being angry. I'm past being sad. I'm sick of crying. I'm so over waiting by the phone. I'm just... I don't even know. My thing is what kind of man doesn't call his woman in a week. What kind of man yells at his woman for calling him to see if he's ok. I just don't get it. I've stopped calling him hoping he would call me. That hasn't worked. I don't know what to do now. This whole think is just sickening now. I'm so ready to give him a piece of my mind but I know that's not the answer to this situation right now. I think I've been pretty calm thus far and I hope that I can remain calm once I talk to him. I just wanted to update you ladies and let you know that I still haven't heard any thing. I'll let you know any thing else as soon as I know.

Welcome to the forum Melissa!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by Pug3636 When you have the talk don't let it get twisted into being your fault. You haven't done a thing wrong. He got you all excited about coming home and wanted to make it a surprise only to not show up and then get mad when you want to know why. He's got some explaining to do. You are so right because that is some thing that he would do. His favorite line is well you could have called me. Well this time I did call and he's not going to get the chance to try and flip it back to me. And he does have some serious explaining to do. I'm really getting to the point now where I don't want to hear it because he has no reason not to answer his phone.

Ok I am officially done calling my FI. I'm tired of hearing his voice mail and leaving him messages. When he wants to talk to let me know what the hell is going on then he'll call. It's going to be tough not calling him but thats what I have to do right now. I didn't even want to tell my mom about it because I knew she would flip and she did. Her exact words were I'm sick of people fucking with my daughters. That did make me chuckle a little because that is so not like my mom. I thank you ladies for all your support. I really needed it. So for now I'm going to write some things down that are concerning me and get ready for our long talk. I really hope all goes well.

I will and thanks again!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by Yari It's not fair that he hasn't called you back though, that is not okay. You are suppose to be partners and need to have some sort of communication. I would definitely talk to him about it when he finally gets to your house. I know this really isn't fair to me at all. I really can't wait until he gets here because the type of talk we need to have needs to happen face to face and not over the phone.

Quote: Originally Posted by Yari Has he always been like this about communication? You know what now that I think about it he has. He's not a real big phone person and this really shouldn't surprise me. I can recall a time when we were dating his phone was off the whole weekend and I couldn't find him and was worried sick. I should have expected him to pull some thing like this. I guess right now all I can do is wait for him to call and try to be calm when I answer the phone.

My neighbor is a female electricician and she loves her job. She's even come over here a couple of times to put up some light fixtures and a few other things. But like I said she loves her job and enjoys what she does. I say go for it!!!

New day, same stuff. I've called. I've text. I don't even know what to do now. I'm so anxious right now and I can't stand it. I wish he would just answer his phone or call me back. I hate that things feel so up in the air right now. Hopefully I will have better news for you ladies later on today.

Quote: Originally Posted by ethrondson How far away is he from home? Does he have a lot of relatives there to visit? As for him not getting it, I think it is a common thing for a lot of males to not realize that we care and they need to call us sometimes and let us know if there are changes in the plans! Do you have to work tomorrow? Maybe you should have a nice warm drink of something uncaffinated and head to bed for the night. Then tomorrow will be here before you know it, make his return home even sooner. Try counting the sheep. He's about two hours from here. If I could drive I would have been there. And yes he has a lot of family in OH. His daughters are there as well. I think that's who he really wanted to see and I am more than ok with that. I just wish he would have said some thing first. No work tomorrow I'm unemployed at the moment and I think me having tons of free time makes it worse. I think I'm going to make a cup of tea and then take a nice warm bath and go to bed. It's been a long day and I'm tired. Thanks again for the support. I don't know what I would do with out the ladies of BDW.

Quote: Originally Posted by ethrondson I am really sorry that all your excitement got squashed like this. He didn't say anything about how long he might be? Is he home for good now? Or does he have to go back? Even though it probably seems like time is dragging right now, he will be home very soon! Keep us posted. Nope he said nothing just yelled at me for calling him too much. He's home for good and I'm glad he doesn't have to go back. And thanks I really needed to hear that.

I just tried calling his phone again and he didn't answer . The phone is what started our arguement. On Tuesday I had called him several times (not sure how many) to make sure he was ok since he didn't call me. I started calling at about 10 am until 4 pm and then he called me back fussing. He got on the phone with an attitude saying why was I calling him back to back and I told him because I wanted to know if you were ok. So he keeps on saying that I was trying to sleep and blah blah blah. Mean while I'm thinking some thing happened to him because he didn't call. So I pretty much get fussed at for interupting his precious sleep. I swear he just doesn't get it. I was worried about him like any one else would have been. I just don't understand why he's not answering his phone. It's really starting to bother me and I am trying not to let it.

I think I am below bummed. We haven't talked since our little arguement so I have no idea. I really wish it wasn't like this. I so didn't want his coming home to be like this.

Well ladies I have a mini update and it's not the best news. Well I talked to my FI and he went to see his family in OH. I'm a little disappointed (ok how about a lot) but what can I do. And he's been in one of his moods (I swear he has pms lol) so we haven't talked too much. It sucks because I was really excited to see him and he switches up and goes to OH first and then fusses at me for fussing at him. So now he's mad at me and I don't know when I'm going to see him. I cried all last night and all day . I was so excited to see him, I mean I still am, but he killed it. I hope he comes this weekend (sigh) I just don't know what I'm going to do

That was very nice of your FI's coworkers. Not many people would be willing to do some thing nice like that. Oh and I just love the veil lol!!!

They sure did renew their vows, how sweet! I can't wait to do that one day. I just need to make it down the aisle first lol. But I found a pic. The kids look so cute!

I had fun taking this and it was so right! Mood: Easy Rider Fun: Thriller Habits: Back to Basics Social: Fun

I like number 1

Great pics!!! I really like the open shirt one very sexy!!!! I'm sure he will love them!!!