This was my EXACT situation ... divorced, 33, didn't want a shower. We just had a girls night out ... or really just dinner, because I was only in from Chicago for a short time and it was last minute. I wanted to do a spa weekend where we all just relax and have some wine, but my best friend had just done that for her shower. But things like that would be fun - just say NO GITFS! lol But a spa weekend/day, or wine tasting, fondue restaurant, etc. - those were things I had wnated to do.