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#11 DreaW

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    Posted 04 January 2008 - 03:22 PM

    I think you can get it blessed anytime, I personally would do it with just my DH, me and our parents only, nothing big....

    What does Matt want? Does he want a big ceremony in a church with everyone or just u two.

    #12 boscobel

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      Posted 04 January 2008 - 03:23 PM

      Martha - I think that is fine. Once you and Jay are married, you would get your marriage blessed and then whenever your friend had her baby, you two would already be good to go for the god-parents. At least that is what I got out of my convo with him, but I didn't read any paperwork or anything...

      #13 boscobel

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        Posted 04 January 2008 - 03:26 PM

        When he brought it up, I was so thrown that I just said ok without asking any questions, so I am not sure what specificially he wants. I wanted to gather information before I went back to him so I knew how I felt about it. Like if it doesn't cost much more to do the church part and that is what he wants, then that is fine. But if I found out that it was a HUGE amount, I would know that we really can't do that. So just trying to gather information really.

        If we were to do a small church blessing, I don't even really know that that means! If it were just us and our parents, that'd be nice, but how does that work? Is it a mass? A private meeting with the priest? I really have no idea.

        #14 Martha

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          Posted 04 January 2008 - 03:33 PM

          That's a good question! The same friend I was referring to earlier had her wedding blessed, would you like me to ask her how it was done? I don't think it would be too much different from church to church.

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            Posted 04 January 2008 - 03:35 PM

            If you wouldn't mind, that'd be great! I put a call into the church that we just registered at, but it is an individual's home, so I didn't get thru to anyone...

            #16 DreaW

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              Posted 04 January 2008 - 03:38 PM

              omg Carly, I was looking up info for you about this and found this conversation....it kind of got me mad (interesting read though)
              How can our marriage be blessed in the church?

              Sorry for highjacking


              p.s Also I'm catholic and Erik isn't so this is an interesting topic :)

              #17 Jenn

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                Posted 04 January 2008 - 03:39 PM

                Carly - I have no input on the ceremony/blessing issue, but if its important to Matt, then I think it is awesome that you are making the effort to make it happen. Even though it seems like a last minute request, you still have plenty of time and I know you guys will get it worked out.

                #18 Martha

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                  Posted 04 January 2008 - 03:48 PM

                  I called her but she didn't answer her cell or house phone. When she calls me back, I'll let ya know what she says!

                  #19 boscobel

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                    Posted 04 January 2008 - 03:48 PM

                    Drea - WOW! That guy made me mad too!!! "It is you who entered into an invalid marital situation, in disobedience to the Church. The Church is willing to make it right for you. "

                    #20 A10CalGal

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                      Posted 04 January 2008 - 03:49 PM

                      Quote:
                      Originally Posted by DreaW
                      omg Carly, I was looking up info for you about this and found this conversation....it kind of got me mad (interesting read though)
                      How can our marriage be blessed in the church?

                      Sorry for highjacking


                      p.s Also I'm catholic and Erik isn't so this is an interesting topic :)
                      Andrea - we totally went thru this right before the wedding. Rafael is Catholic & I am not. I was very confused by the whole idea that in the eyes of the church he is still married to his ex-wife even though they are legally divorced. I got extremely freaked out about this whole thing about our marriage not existing.

                      If we wanted our marriage blessed by the church, he would have to petition for an annullment (Sp?) which he has mixed feeling about because that would mean (in the eyes of the church) that the marriage never existed, and that the children produced from the marriage are somehow bastard children as a result. Wow!

                      This is exactly why my mom didn't raise me catholic!




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