Earlier last week we brought up the idea of a DW in Mexico 11-3-15 (the anniversary of our first kiss) with just close friends and family, and at first everyone was excited about it. I started looking at flights and hotels and got really into it. Just last night, my parents informed me that my grandparents would not be able to go due to age/uncomfortable with Mexico and my sisters who are in college might not be able to get out of school for a few days because it's on a Tuesday.
So they kind of gave us an ultimatum:
1) have a wedding for all family and friends first prior to 11-3-15 and we go to Mexico for honeymoon instead (that they would pay for),
2) go to Mexico with a small group of people on 11-3-15 (which was to be expected) and parents/grandparents/sisters possibly not attend,
3) or they attend Mexico wedding but make us feel guilty for not allowing close family to participate.
My fiancé and I thought of a different plan that might be more exciting, but I wanted some input: he and I go to Mexico alone and have our intimate ceremony on 11-3-15 and then return for a weekend wedding with our entire family in their hometown to avoid travel issues and possibly make everyone happy.
Is it selfish to go off on our own to get the plan we wanted? We want to keep everyone happy, but didn't want it to be at the expense of ourselves.
We didn't want to give up our entire plan just because we were given a guilt trip. I want to keep the significance of 11-3-15. You know, first kiss 11-3-13, first kiss as man and wife 11-3-15.
Thoughts? Ideas? Please help!
Edited by FutureMrsPaez, 24 June 2015 - 08:56 AM.