Some of you may recall the issues I have with my future sister-in-laws. One is very controlling of the other and has serious insecurity issues and as a result, we are cordial, but not friends. It's a shame. But they're in the bridal party regardless out of obligation. (and have taken no interest in anything to date)
My shower is in a month now and my MOH is in charge of seating for my friends and family while my mother-in-law will do her people. I thought about whether or not to include my sister-in-laws at my table and decided to do the politically correct thing and include them since they're BP. My MOH and I were talking about it today and I said keep the peace and put them with us (she doesn't like them at all b/c of how they treat me like an outcast). She said "nope, i'll take charge. I'll work on it and give your mother-in-law her people." Then I thought about it and figured - let my MIL make the call. If she puts the SILs with her then fine, but if she doesn't then they need to go with me. I don't want to look like the bad guy. So then I tell my MOH that and say that I don't want to face repercussions later on. All I got back was "I'll handle it." and "I'll take care of it."
My MOH, while her heart is always in the right place, never cares about doing 'what's right' in general. She does what's best for her and to some degree, I admire that. But in this case, I think it's a matter of doing the right thing. I'm worried that she won't. What do I do?
Or.... do I not worry about it at all b/c I'm not the one who arranged the tables at the end of the day.