Well it's my turn to vent. I have been reading and following several different wedding stories on here and also lots of venting- was really hoping I didn't have to post my own story but here goes!
Soooo...a guest of ours who was excited about our wedding from the minute we announced a destination wedding has now let us know that they will be booking at a different hotel. We realize we cannot control every single detail about our wedding and we are for the most part ok with that.
The only problem that I can anticipate is that there is the day pass fee. I was warned by the hotel and our travel agent that they would need to pay for a day pass to attend the ceremony (morning until 5pm pass) and to stay at the reception they would have to pay for another pass. The times for the day pass are morning to 5pm and then evening until 11pm? or 1am ...I can't remember. It totals about $200 for each outside guest to attend the wedding.
So we've explained that this is going to be a cost that they will be faced with. (We are not paying for this...I don't think we should.)
$200 x 3 people = $600 is a lot of money.
Anyway, they have explained that they don't think they will be charged that and that they won't pay it. (they will most definitely be charged the day pass, that's how the resort makes extra money.) And based on the conversation they had with my FI they eluded to the fact that if they did have to pay that fee then they wouldn't come to the wedding. So essentially they are going to fly down, stay at a different hotel, find their own way down to our hotel the day off the wedding and be told about the day pass, the same day pass fee we are telling them now, and then return back to their hotel because they won't be able to escape that cost.
So many reasons why this is annoying
1. We will have to give final numbers by then. So when, not if, they find out that they have to pay the day passes and they decide to turn around and go back to their hotel, we will also be out $300 ($100 per person).
2. Why come? I mean save your money. If you think there is a chance that you will have to pay the fee and you don't want to then don't risk it and don't come.
3. We ideally want the group to bond and spend some nice time together and this obviously won't happen at all with these guests.
Our idea is to send them an email explaining the day pass costs and just outlining that we were planning for some group events together and the bachelor party etc etc at the resort. And just outlining in a nice, but gentle way that we won't be paying for the day passes and if they don't attend that we are also out money.
I am too annoyed to think of a nice way to write all of this but if anyone has come across this and has tips, please share. If you have seen this topic somewhere else in this forum , also let me know.
10am and I'm ready for a shot of tequila. lol
also, I'm afraid that they will start a trend with the rest of the guests and it will sort give other guests the idea of looking outside of our hotel.
Edited by veryvalero, 05 November 2014 - 08:02 AM.