So one of my bridesmaids (currently resides in Japan) may not be able to attend as her military husband is getting new orders around the time of my wedding and they will need to move. Totally understandable. Although I'm a little peeved that she has yet to speak to me directly about it, has ignored my messages (I guess to avoid the topic until she knows more) but has told my MOH, who has then told me.
I do have another good friend who I have already asked to step in if this happened - I kind of feel bad about asking her to be a backup as I'm not sure if this is insulting since she wasn't first choice lol I did explain my reasoning as we were keeping it as 4 bridesmaids - 3 of my oldest friends and my soon to be sister in law. She is fine with this and seemed to understand. I have considered moving it to 5 bridesmaids but really want to keep it small and if my other friend really does drops out, I will end up with 4 and my FI will end up with 5 if he adds someone. We really want to keep it even.
Trying to decide at what point I should ask my other friend to step in! I bought the dress already for my friend in Japan but luckily my backup wears the same size lol Not sure if I should continue to wait or just remove my good friend from the bridal party. I guess since they wear the same size it's ok to wait a while and see. Then if she IS able to go last minute after I've removed her from the bridal party, I would like to have something special for her to do but I have no idea what!
Has anyone ever appointed people for special roles in the wedding? If so, what role did they play?