Well my biggest fear for my fiance is coming true his father refuses to come to our wedding. Let me just preface this with he is a tough man to get out of the house so when we started to plan our wedding we knew he was going to be a struggle to convince. We have been planning our wedding for almost 2 years so he's had a long time to think about the trip and get himself ready for the trip but just today he sprung it on my fiance that he will not be going. As our gift to his parents we purchased their flights and are paying a night stay for them so the trip is not costing them too much but that's not even the issue his father just doesn't want to go. His father is a hermit and its hard to get him to even go out to dinner at times but we never thought he would go as far as to decide just flat out say no I don't feel like going to your wedding. He does have health issues but its because he smokes and has all his life but its not any issue that will deter him from going he even went to the doctors and was cleared. I just don't think he cares and doesn't want to go and that's the end of it for him. So now we are stuck with his plane ticket and now his mother has no one to room with and we have to scramble to figure out who she can go with. I feel bad because not only is he ruining it for my fiance he is ruining it for his wife my fiance's mother now she will be alone the whole weekend and will not not be able to share this with her husband like they both should. I'm so angry right now because this isn't the first time he has done this he didn't go to my fiance's college graduation and then his police academy graduation I just dont' get it. Me personally I don't have a relationship with my father we haven't spoke in years but he does have a relationship and does so much for him always and for his own father to just not want to be there really angers me. Not sure what we are going to do now but we need to figure it out our wedding is 2 and 1/2 months away and the booking deadline for our rooms is in 10 days so not too much time. I hope he changes his mind and he sees just how hurtful he is being to his son and his wife but i'm afraid that they let him slide on missing so many important things in the past that he figures they'll get over it like every other time. Now we are out $500 for his ticket and I wish I could just give it to another family member who actually wants to come and could use the help but not sure our airline will let us transfer the ticket. Sorry for the long post but I just can't believe he sprung this up on us today.
Edited by NJBride2014, 30 June 2014 - 12:09 PM.