Originally Posted by MrsTobeD
I really thought about having the RSVP by March, I am an August 2014 bride, and I really want to know how many OOT bags I need to make, I am not in a situation to be making more just in case, I figure if people are going to go, they will know when they receive their STD's, is not like they will sit and think, oh, can I go? do I have something else so do in a year? My STD are going out this weekend.
I send RSVP's back the minute they come in my mailbox, so I don't know why people wouldn't do the same, come on, you know if you are going to attend or not, being lazy/rude and postponing a reply "just because" is something else.
I do foresee that inconveniences happen and I could get a couple of cancellations but I really need to know how many people are coming before I start making myself crazy with tons of DIY that I will never use. Lets say, booking a DJ, is something I will only do if I have enough people so just and ipod will not suffice, so yes, I need to book the DJ at least 6 months in advance, how do I do this if I don't know how many people are coming?
The reason STD's for a wedding go out at least a year in advance is so people can plan accordingly and decide if they are going to be able to afford it and/or want to attend. So if I go through all the work of being ready, sending things ahead of time, holding rooms down with my own money, why can they reply 5/6 months in advance? A vacation is not something that you decide the day before you go.
If people are going to wait 2 days before the RSVP date to do it, then let that be 5 months in advance so I can plan.
Totally agree. One piece of advice I can give is, do yourself a favor and whenever you decide to send them, don't give people too much time to decide. I sent mine at the end of May, and gave until August 1st. I figured everyone would send them right away. WRONG. I still have 67 to come in, and the due date is tomorrow. Giving them months only allowed them to procrastinate and stick it at the bottom of the pile. I also think a lot of people who were no's waited to respond because they felt bad and now have forgotten. This will be a long list of people to contact. Another point...I invited a lot of people thinking "why not invite everyone so no one is left out. they won't come anyway". But, I neglected to realize how much of a toll it would take on me to receive 2 no's per day, every day. It felt a little depressing =( Might have been better to get them all in month and rip the bandaid off quickly!