I am very new on this forum but immediately (after reading other rants) it felt like home.
I to am planning a DW in dominican republic and am starting to have arguments with my closest family members (i.e. sisters). To give a brief description one said " We're not celebrities, why are you doing this". While the other said, " Thinking about [saving money] your wedding is the last thing on my mind". Just to inform you guys, I asked both of these ladies to be my bridesmaid, which at the time they both seemed really excited about ( knowing full well it was going to be a DW). It's extremely difficult to not argue and at the same time feel guilty when you have people telling you you're being selfish.
I really wanted my DW to be a vacation for everyone who normally doesn't treat themselves, a moment to stop and smell the roses for once. I wanted everyone to just have a good time and the fact that i was getting married while vacationing with all of them to be a HUGE bonus. I really was coming from an unselfish place AND understood not everyone was going to go. I would've been disappointed yes, but never would've argued with them or called anyone selfish.
Also, if anyone can help me, after all the arguments I now have doubts on if i have been going about this the "right" way. I'm so unsure that I'm doing all this inappropriately! My questions are as follows:
1) how do you tell people formally about a DW.? (Mostly everyone knows from word-of-mouth/ texts but I would like to EMAIL something a little more formal)
2)My DW is 9 mth away, should I have done a formal save the date a long time ago? Is it too late to do this, with all of the people backing out?
3) With all of the definite's, that aren't so definite anymore I am thinking of having an at home reception. When should I start planning and how?
General information: I have a wedding date of June 26, 2013 and a deposit on a resort BUT I have no pricing as of yet, only estimates. As of this moment I have 5 definite's and 10 maybe.
If anyone has any advice and/or websites that might answer some of my questions that would be greatly appreciated
P.S. congrats to all of you