Well said!!! I agree 100% with Peach
Originally Posted by Peach
I think that there is always family drama. I know that there is with me. The only thing bugging me is that people who are must-haves at my wedding will not be there (my grandparents, because of age and health). But the ONLY way they could make it was if I did the traditional church and community centre thing back in the hometown. Not me, not FI. So, we said, 'this is what we want, and if there are just a few people, then that is fine.' Our compromise is that we are doing an AHR that is combining more traditional elements, even though I wanted it more laid-back; that is all for my family. Am I getting a lot of flack and complaints? Yes. Lots. From my parents, most of all; I told them that if they do not want to come, do not come. Will I hate them for it? No. Will I forget it either? No. So, I guess my point is, sit down with FI and decide, is this what we want? If it for sure is, then that is what you do. Surround yourself with positive people who support you. For me, my future in-laws are wonderful and have helped SO much. For you, that might be your own family. Keep things civil, but, as much as possible, choose not to let it bother you. It will bother you sometimes, but remind yourself that they are going to be the ones missing out. Negative people will always find something to complain about. And I just do not understand why a person would miss out on something without a 'good reason', or complain the whole time if they do go. How exhausting!
Sorry for the rant; hope it helps!